I often wonder why husband is the way he is. Alway taking difficult child's side, doing anything and everything for difficult child even if he should be punished. I don't seem to exist, now going on 13 years. I bet he slept on the couch the first 5 years of difficult child's life, "in case he woke up". He is a finatic about germs. easy child and difficult child have to wash their hands everytime they touch things. He has hand wipes everywhere. Anyway, I grew up in a home with two parents, we were active in sports, summers on the water beach home. Siblings are much older though. He came from a big city. Father was abusive. mother left when he was three, doesn't remember her. He remembers hiding under the bed so his father wouldn't beat him. Father was an alcoholic and died in a one car accident when he was a young teen.(pre-teen) Had no family, bounced around from friends homes to friends homes. Do you think because he never had parents that could be a reason why the two of us cannot seem to get on the same page? But things were so wonderful before his son (difficult child) was born. His only child and he was 42 when difficult child was born. Just another usual morning, trying to talk but seems like talking to the wall. And he is NEVER wrong. Just want to know why he can tell difficult child he loves him ten times a day, but I haven't heard it in about ten years.