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<blockquote data-quote="emotionallybankrupt" data-source="post: 332374" data-attributes="member: 8226"><p>You're welcome. I'm glad I was able to help a little.</p><p> </p><p>I really think nature has somehow programmed moms to assume that when things go wrong, it has to be because we made some critical mistake. It's really an unfair quirk of nature. As soon as we find that one of our possible "mistakes" was not the culprit, we immediately go searching for another way we caused the problems.</p><p> </p><p>Over the years, I've met a few moms I really believe are bad mothers. They are not the ones searching the internet for answers and taking their children to professionals for evaluations. Despite that, some children of these "bad moms" thrive anyway. Back to the "nature vs. nurture" argument. A complicated mix for sure.</p><p> </p><p>Many mothers go back to work soon after baby's birth, for whatever reason, and most often they think at the time that it's the best choice overall. And...most of the time the child has no ill effects. Even if the child did, though, is it reasonable to think it would be this severe?</p><p> </p><p>I hope you will work on the self-care sooner rather than later. This is one way to help your child too. A happier mother makes for a happier child. Children always pick up on our emotions and stresses, no matter how hard we try to smooth it over and act like nothing is wrong.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="emotionallybankrupt, post: 332374, member: 8226"] You're welcome. I'm glad I was able to help a little. I really think nature has somehow programmed moms to assume that when things go wrong, it has to be because we made some critical mistake. It's really an unfair quirk of nature. As soon as we find that one of our possible "mistakes" was not the culprit, we immediately go searching for another way we caused the problems. Over the years, I've met a few moms I really believe are bad mothers. They are not the ones searching the internet for answers and taking their children to professionals for evaluations. Despite that, some children of these "bad moms" thrive anyway. Back to the "nature vs. nurture" argument. A complicated mix for sure. Many mothers go back to work soon after baby's birth, for whatever reason, and most often they think at the time that it's the best choice overall. And...most of the time the child has no ill effects. Even if the child did, though, is it reasonable to think it would be this severe? I hope you will work on the self-care sooner rather than later. This is one way to help your child too. A happier mother makes for a happier child. Children always pick up on our emotions and stresses, no matter how hard we try to smooth it over and act like nothing is wrong. [/QUOTE]
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