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<blockquote data-quote="firstangel" data-source="post: 332951" data-attributes="member: 8753"><p><span style="font-family: 'Arial'"><span style="font-size: 10px">I bought The Explosive Child and 2 other titles on Amazon. They should be delivered in a couple of days, and then we'll start from scratches again, that's what we need, because Marg you're right: I had to be mum and dad at the same time and that didn't help. I struggled to find the right method and to keep everything under control and it dind't work!! And I also want to go deeper into the AS thing as that was my first guess when I started to feel that something was not right and that's where my guts brought me: to AS. My question is: why is Asperger's often missed by professionals?</span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Arial'"><span style="font-size: 10px">Do you know the Tony Attwood's test? (well I don't know if it's his test actually, but it may be found on his site) D. scored around 3.5 on a scale that goes from 0 to 6. At the same time he fits perfectly in ODD: he is a yes to all questions.</span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Arial'"><span style="font-size: 10px">ABOUT D'S TANTRUMS: they've always been very severe (especially in crowded places and especially if he could have an "audience"). I have the feeling that there are some things that he just can't undestand, don't get me wrong I'm not saying that he's not smart, because he IS, but just to give you an example he would go beserk because his favourite cereals had finished and the shops were closed and we couldn't buy others. And no kind of explanation would convince him that there was no way we could go out and buy them, he would go on for 30 minutes insisted that he wanted them IMMEDIATELY.</span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Arial'"><span style="font-size: 10px">NOISES: I've never punished him for those, only asked him to keep it as low as possible, but with little result: he would try for like 5 seconds and then go back to the previous volume level <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> He can't help it, he has to reproduce sounds, just love it.</span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Arial'"><span style="font-size: 10px">SENSORY ISSUES: he has always been disturbed by sounds (apart those that HE makes obviously <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" />), even as a baby he would start crying when hearing low prolonged sounds for example. Now we can't go to the cinema because it's too noisy and he gets scared (trembling like a leaf kind of scared)</span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Arial'"><span style="font-size: 10px">TALKING: did you find it difficult to talk to your kids? What with the eye contact issues, added to his capability to change subject or to say something completely OUT of subject, especially sentences taken from cartoons etc it is sooooo difficult. I'm never sure he has really undestood.</span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Arial'"><span style="font-size: 10px">I don't live with my parents, they help me with D when I'm at work and he's not at school, but you're right again!! They're not supportive with D's diagnosis, they think there's nothing wrong with him, that I'm exagerating things and that he has nothing that a good spanking won't cure (and by the way he laughs at me when I spank him). And he's father is the same, he won't admit we need help and won't accept the family therapy. </span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Arial'">We do a lot of things together: we read (we LOVE that), we play games, but i always feel it's like walking on eggshells with him and I admit that I loose my patience often, even though I promise myself not to do it, it happens, and I hate it when it happens.</span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Arial'">At the moment I hope it's not ODD and it's Asperger's instead because I feel I can work on that, while ODD it's like a no hope sentence.</span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Arial'">Thank you all for your support</span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="firstangel, post: 332951, member: 8753"] [FONT=Arial][SIZE=2]I bought The Explosive Child and 2 other titles on Amazon. They should be delivered in a couple of days, and then we'll start from scratches again, that's what we need, because Marg you're right: I had to be mum and dad at the same time and that didn't help. I struggled to find the right method and to keep everything under control and it dind't work!! And I also want to go deeper into the AS thing as that was my first guess when I started to feel that something was not right and that's where my guts brought me: to AS. My question is: why is Asperger's often missed by professionals?[/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Arial][SIZE=2]Do you know the Tony Attwood's test? (well I don't know if it's his test actually, but it may be found on his site) D. scored around 3.5 on a scale that goes from 0 to 6. At the same time he fits perfectly in ODD: he is a yes to all questions.[/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Arial][SIZE=2][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Arial][SIZE=2]ABOUT D'S TANTRUMS: they've always been very severe (especially in crowded places and especially if he could have an "audience"). I have the feeling that there are some things that he just can't undestand, don't get me wrong I'm not saying that he's not smart, because he IS, but just to give you an example he would go beserk because his favourite cereals had finished and the shops were closed and we couldn't buy others. And no kind of explanation would convince him that there was no way we could go out and buy them, he would go on for 30 minutes insisted that he wanted them IMMEDIATELY.[/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Arial][SIZE=2][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Arial][SIZE=2]NOISES: I've never punished him for those, only asked him to keep it as low as possible, but with little result: he would try for like 5 seconds and then go back to the previous volume level :-) He can't help it, he has to reproduce sounds, just love it.[/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Arial][SIZE=2][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Arial][SIZE=2]SENSORY ISSUES: he has always been disturbed by sounds (apart those that HE makes obviously :-)), even as a baby he would start crying when hearing low prolonged sounds for example. Now we can't go to the cinema because it's too noisy and he gets scared (trembling like a leaf kind of scared)[/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Arial][SIZE=2][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Arial][SIZE=2]TALKING: did you find it difficult to talk to your kids? What with the eye contact issues, added to his capability to change subject or to say something completely OUT of subject, especially sentences taken from cartoons etc it is sooooo difficult. I'm never sure he has really undestood.[/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Arial][SIZE=2][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Arial][SIZE=2]I don't live with my parents, they help me with D when I'm at work and he's not at school, but you're right again!! They're not supportive with D's diagnosis, they think there's nothing wrong with him, that I'm exagerating things and that he has nothing that a good spanking won't cure (and by the way he laughs at me when I spank him). And he's father is the same, he won't admit we need help and won't accept the family therapy. [/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Arial][/FONT] [FONT=Arial]We do a lot of things together: we read (we LOVE that), we play games, but i always feel it's like walking on eggshells with him and I admit that I loose my patience often, even though I promise myself not to do it, it happens, and I hate it when it happens.[/FONT] [FONT=Arial][/FONT] [FONT=Arial]At the moment I hope it's not ODD and it's Asperger's instead because I feel I can work on that, while ODD it's like a no hope sentence.[/FONT] [FONT=Arial][/FONT] [FONT=Arial]Thank you all for your support[/FONT] [/QUOTE]
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