difficult child has not been doing so well working with husband. husband had gotten difficult child into the carpenters union- it's not easy to get into, you have to know someone. It's a good living for someone who hasn't gone to college, and who is a difficult child. Great salary and benenfits. difficult child gets to work and doesn't work. husband is the foreman, difficult child's boss.difficult child has been talking back, and last week he made fun of husband in front of the other men there and husband pushed difficult child to the ground!!! (How crazy and dysfunctional is this?) So husband said he's getting rid of difficult child. difficult child know's this is the best thing in terms of a living he can have right now, he doesn't care. I told husband never to yell at him, when this happens, just tell him to pack his tools and go. Tell him to try again tomorrow. Enough times of husband sending him home immediately, maybe he'll get the message.
Also,..difficult child moved away from where he was living, near the jobs, to near us. He doesn't have a way to get to work now, and has been getting rides from husband, but there are times when they are at different jobs and difficult child doesn't have a way to get there. He calls husband threating to not go, unless husband gets him there. husband is detatched and won't be talked to like that. difficult child has been getting rides, bumming them so to speak with other men who work for husband. He needs a vehicle. Now that he has money husband mentioned he needs to get one, and start saving for a deposit, or even you can put little or no money down at places. Well difficult child mentioned he doesn't even have a bank account, he owes credit card bills and never paid a dime on them, he only owes $400- he's ruining his credit for like $30 a month( I guess that's how much the payment would be)I'm sure that's really not he true amount anyway.
husband dropped difficult child off at he bank after payday Wed. so he could open one up. He called me on my way home from work, and I went to the bank and got difficult child and drove him home. On the way, all I heard was about -difficult child B.S. and lies, you know where they change their story around every second until it resembles nothing like it started out to be. I just didn't answer, I just said, "hmm..." and "really?". Whatever, thank goodness I don't have to deal with this much and am not engaging this. The next day difficult child went to work and told husband that I said this and that and aren't I awful. To make a long story short. husband knows difficult child and his pathalogical lying and he said, "hmm" and "really"also.
We just patted ourselves on the back and are glad he doen't live here, and everything we did- the restraing order- was the right thing, if not difficult child would right now be laying on our couch never even working. He had some life lessons I'm sure throughout, but he's still completely ODD.-Alyssa
Also,..difficult child moved away from where he was living, near the jobs, to near us. He doesn't have a way to get to work now, and has been getting rides from husband, but there are times when they are at different jobs and difficult child doesn't have a way to get there. He calls husband threating to not go, unless husband gets him there. husband is detatched and won't be talked to like that. difficult child has been getting rides, bumming them so to speak with other men who work for husband. He needs a vehicle. Now that he has money husband mentioned he needs to get one, and start saving for a deposit, or even you can put little or no money down at places. Well difficult child mentioned he doesn't even have a bank account, he owes credit card bills and never paid a dime on them, he only owes $400- he's ruining his credit for like $30 a month( I guess that's how much the payment would be)I'm sure that's really not he true amount anyway.
husband dropped difficult child off at he bank after payday Wed. so he could open one up. He called me on my way home from work, and I went to the bank and got difficult child and drove him home. On the way, all I heard was about -difficult child B.S. and lies, you know where they change their story around every second until it resembles nothing like it started out to be. I just didn't answer, I just said, "hmm..." and "really?". Whatever, thank goodness I don't have to deal with this much and am not engaging this. The next day difficult child went to work and told husband that I said this and that and aren't I awful. To make a long story short. husband knows difficult child and his pathalogical lying and he said, "hmm" and "really"also.
We just patted ourselves on the back and are glad he doen't live here, and everything we did- the restraing order- was the right thing, if not difficult child would right now be laying on our couch never even working. He had some life lessons I'm sure throughout, but he's still completely ODD.-Alyssa
