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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 391141" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Both ODD and chronic pain are descriptive labels rather than specific conditions. For example, both husband & I have chronic pain, but the physical conditions underlying this are different for each of us</p><p></p><p>ODD is a rotten label to give a kid. It is not very helpful (other than perhaps a tool to get added support in the school system). It implies that the child is choosing to be difficult out of sheer cussedness. Generally, however, ODD is what you get in a child as a response to discipline methods which are counter-productive FOR THAT CHILD. A strong-willed kid is more likely to develop ODD< because often discipline methods revolve around trying to be tougher and firmer than the kid; the parent tries to be more strong-willed than the child, and in doing so is actually modelling how to be oppositional. When you have a strong-willed child who learns best by imitation, you have a recipe for ODD.</p><p></p><p>But it doesn't have to be like that. There are ways of backing off from trying to apply your own control, and instead using the child's own stubbornness to turn it into self-control. Become the supporter and facilitator for the child instead of the resistive force. </p><p></p><p>A book that helped a lot of us is The Explosive Child by Ross Greene. Grab a copy (library perhaps) and read it. There is also a sticky about this book in Early Childhood to give you a bit of an idea.</p><p></p><p>When you can, do a sig for yourself to give us a bit of background every time you post. Keep it anonymous (that's why we use abbreviations) so you can feel free to vent here whenever you visit, without fear of whoever you're venting about (school, family, friends, health professionals) tracking you here by name.</p><p></p><p>Welcome. Sorry you need us, but you are now among friends.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 391141, member: 1991"] Both ODD and chronic pain are descriptive labels rather than specific conditions. For example, both husband & I have chronic pain, but the physical conditions underlying this are different for each of us ODD is a rotten label to give a kid. It is not very helpful (other than perhaps a tool to get added support in the school system). It implies that the child is choosing to be difficult out of sheer cussedness. Generally, however, ODD is what you get in a child as a response to discipline methods which are counter-productive FOR THAT CHILD. A strong-willed kid is more likely to develop ODD< because often discipline methods revolve around trying to be tougher and firmer than the kid; the parent tries to be more strong-willed than the child, and in doing so is actually modelling how to be oppositional. When you have a strong-willed child who learns best by imitation, you have a recipe for ODD. But it doesn't have to be like that. There are ways of backing off from trying to apply your own control, and instead using the child's own stubbornness to turn it into self-control. Become the supporter and facilitator for the child instead of the resistive force. A book that helped a lot of us is The Explosive Child by Ross Greene. Grab a copy (library perhaps) and read it. There is also a sticky about this book in Early Childhood to give you a bit of an idea. When you can, do a sig for yourself to give us a bit of background every time you post. Keep it anonymous (that's why we use abbreviations) so you can feel free to vent here whenever you visit, without fear of whoever you're venting about (school, family, friends, health professionals) tracking you here by name. Welcome. Sorry you need us, but you are now among friends. Marg [/QUOTE]
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