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<blockquote data-quote="KTMom91" data-source="post: 713315" data-attributes="member: 4040"><p>Sounds familiar. We had open warfare for years, and the house still bears some of the scars from that period. So do I. So does my Hubby. And I imagine Miss KT does, too.</p><p></p><p>I was very alert to the professional victim thing, the slacking off, and the unwillingness to accept responsibility, because that's her father in a nutshell, and I was terrified she would turn out the same way. Looking back, I probably should have been more willing to find a balance in dealing with her, but I am also stubborn and confrontational. That's where she gets it.</p><p></p><p>I relied heavily on practical consequences. When we got her a cell phone (7th grade), I told her we would replace it ONCE. We did. Then she decided she wanted a new phone, and threw hers off a second floor balcony. Tough tofu. She tore her bedroom door off the hinges and threw it at me. No door. I bought her a bus pass when she started high school. She sold it. She walked. I packed everyone's lunches in the morning. She threw hers in the trash before even leaving the yard. Go hungry. After she got her license, if she was not medication compliant and grades were less than C's, she did not drive. Fortunately, we were in a financial position where I didn't have to work full time, because she needed that supervision throughout high school.</p><p></p><p>Talk therapy was not successful for us, and depending on the state you live in, she might be able to legally refuse any mental health medication and/or therapy. If I remember correctly, it's age 12 in California. Find out what your rights and responsibilities are in your state, and protect yourself and the rest of the family. Document everything. Stay safe.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="KTMom91, post: 713315, member: 4040"] Sounds familiar. We had open warfare for years, and the house still bears some of the scars from that period. So do I. So does my Hubby. And I imagine Miss KT does, too. I was very alert to the professional victim thing, the slacking off, and the unwillingness to accept responsibility, because that's her father in a nutshell, and I was terrified she would turn out the same way. Looking back, I probably should have been more willing to find a balance in dealing with her, but I am also stubborn and confrontational. That's where she gets it. I relied heavily on practical consequences. When we got her a cell phone (7th grade), I told her we would replace it ONCE. We did. Then she decided she wanted a new phone, and threw hers off a second floor balcony. Tough tofu. She tore her bedroom door off the hinges and threw it at me. No door. I bought her a bus pass when she started high school. She sold it. She walked. I packed everyone's lunches in the morning. She threw hers in the trash before even leaving the yard. Go hungry. After she got her license, if she was not medication compliant and grades were less than C's, she did not drive. Fortunately, we were in a financial position where I didn't have to work full time, because she needed that supervision throughout high school. Talk therapy was not successful for us, and depending on the state you live in, she might be able to legally refuse any mental health medication and/or therapy. If I remember correctly, it's age 12 in California. Find out what your rights and responsibilities are in your state, and protect yourself and the rest of the family. Document everything. Stay safe. [/QUOTE]
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