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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 728582" data-attributes="member: 1233">Oh boy does some of this bring me back!&nbsp; My son was very abusive and violent to me and to my daughter (especially to my daughter, his little sister).&nbsp; Between ages 12-14, life was truly awful with him because he was my size or larger and he just never let up.Why have you not had him evaluated?&nbsp; I think it is time to at least try to get some evaluations done.&nbsp; Do what you need to in order to bribe him to cooperate.&nbsp; Also let the professionals see how he does not cooperate with anything.&nbsp; It is crucial that they see his bad behaviors because they cannot help what they cannot see.&nbsp; I would strongly suggest getting an evaluation by a neuropsychologist, a psychologist with special training in the brain.&nbsp; This usually takes 10-12 hours of testing, broken up over several days.&nbsp; If your son is giving you this much trouble, he probably isn't learning much while homeschooling.&nbsp; He is also adding a LOT to your stress level.&nbsp; It may be time to think about enrolling him in school again.&nbsp; Once he is diagnosed with a disorder, the school has to give him help and accommodations for his problems.&nbsp; This may or may not solve the problems.&nbsp; It won't be the whole fix, but it will be part of the solution, maybe.&nbsp; Having him at school and not with you all day will at least take some stress away from you.&nbsp; It will also take that role of teacher away from you, which may help your relationship with him.I homeschooled my oldest son for a while. It wasn't a bad thing, but it did put a strain on our relationship at times.&nbsp; He wasn't as old as your son and I couldn't have educated him at that age.&nbsp; It would not have worked.&nbsp; I admire you for trying.I will write more later, but I must leave to run an errand.&nbsp; I hope this helps.&nbsp; You have found a group that truly understands how hard it is to raise a difficult child.&nbsp; We will give ideas and tell you what we would do, but we understand if that isn't the right thing for you.&nbsp; We won't judge you ever.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 728582, member: 1233"] Oh boy does some of this bring me back! My son was very abusive and violent to me and to my daughter (especially to my daughter, his little sister). Between ages 12-14, life was truly awful with him because he was my size or larger and he just never let up. Why have you not had him evaluated? I think it is time to at least try to get some evaluations done. Do what you need to in order to bribe him to cooperate. Also let the professionals see how he does not cooperate with anything. It is crucial that they see his bad behaviors because they cannot help what they cannot see. I would strongly suggest getting an evaluation by a neuropsychologist, a psychologist with special training in the brain. This usually takes 10-12 hours of testing, broken up over several days. If your son is giving you this much trouble, he probably isn't learning much while homeschooling. He is also adding a LOT to your stress level. It may be time to think about enrolling him in school again. Once he is diagnosed with a disorder, the school has to give him help and accommodations for his problems. This may or may not solve the problems. It won't be the whole fix, but it will be part of the solution, maybe. Having him at school and not with you all day will at least take some stress away from you. It will also take that role of teacher away from you, which may help your relationship with him. I homeschooled my oldest son for a while. It wasn't a bad thing, but it did put a strain on our relationship at times. He wasn't as old as your son and I couldn't have educated him at that age. It would not have worked. I admire you for trying. I will write more later, but I must leave to run an errand. I hope this helps. You have found a group that truly understands how hard it is to raise a difficult child. We will give ideas and tell you what we would do, but we understand if that isn't the right thing for you. We won't judge you ever. [/QUOTE]

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