Our morning ritual....

[timer lady]

kt needs to get up very early for day treatment (her bus comes at 6:07).

kt sets her alarm & I set mine. I get up usually about 20 minutes before she does to get coffee going, kt's medications out & other trivial morning activities.

kt comes down from her room & starts eating breakfast. We generally chat about the upcoming day; maybe about something that is on her mind or plans for after school.

Yesterday kt came down & grabbed a cup of coffee. I just watched her as she sat down & started drinking coffee. (I drink half decaf/half regular coffee). kt told me that she felt that now that she was a "woman" we should have morning coffee together & "check in" with each other before our day begins.

Same thing happens this morning (however I made decaf coffee just in case.)

Just tell me ~ who is this child? What happened to ktbug? I wonder how many different "kt's" will pop out before I see the mature adult kt.

 

[klmno]

How sweet! It sounds like she is interested in growing up a little and sharing some "girl time" with you! Maybe you can use that to your advantage! I'm glad you made decaf, though- I hate to think what my difficult child would do on reg. coffee!!

 

[Christy]

That's nice You can have a few calm moments. Her bus come at 6:07, yikes!

 

[TerryJ2]

That sounds cute. Good thinking on the decaf. I hope this is a very long stage!

 

[JJJ]

Her bus comes at 6:07???? That would so be husband's job!! Do you go back to bed when she is gone?

 

[Sheila]

Too sweet! Another one for the memory box.

 

[everywoman]

Oh Linda---how special was that moment. And by the way---you'll see at least 1000 more kt's before she's really mature...LOL

 

[house of cards]

If I had to get up as early as you, I would need day treatment. I don't know how you do it with your health concerns and all. I think I would need every drop of the caffeine and then some.

 

[butterflydreams]

That is very sweet! Enjoy those moments. I understand the early morning though. I am up at 5:30am every morning so I can get ready and get easy child out the door at 6:30 to school. H.S. starts at 7:05am. I'm waking difficult child up at 6am, we don't leave for his school until 7:30-7:40am. If he took the morning bus, he would have to be at the bus stop by 7:20am.

Christy

 

[busywend]

Too cute!

 

[Andy]

That is so COOL. Grab this chance to make this a daily habit. Get her in the habit of talking to you every single day.

 

[timer lady]

Sorry I didn't get back to you sooner......been a tad busy with a few things to get kt off to respite & then I fell asleep. husband chose not to wake me for which I'm grateful.

I enjoy our morning talks - the fact that kt has initiated this little ritual (about a month ago with-o the coffee & "woman" statement) gives me pause. I feel as though the culmination of the past 7 years is making a bigger impact than I had thought.

I watch kt grow emotionally & mature & I'm awed at her survival; her ability to move forward however tenuously. (I still never know which kt I'll see on any given morning & sometimes that makes me very uncomfortable.)

I have been journaling on a regular basis & had already recorded this in my journal. Thank you ladies....as always you are the best.

 

[flutterbee]

I didn't see this earlier, Linda. I'm sorry.

You know, I enjoy and savor these moments as they come. I know there will still be difficult child moments and slides back into old behaviors and immaturity. But, this is growth and a desire to share with you.

I find it very heartwarming.

 

[Wiped Out]

I think this is a great ritual. It's so great that she wants to spend this time with you. It must do your heart good to see the progress she is making. Hugs.

 

[tryinghard]

oh, I think that is so wonderful!

 

[susiestar]

Linda,

As I read this I thought about all the things we have seen ktbug do over the years. WOW! What an awesome young lady she is becoming. And so much growth has happened.

I think it would be worth getting up for to have that bit of "check in" time with your daughter. Even if it has to be before 6!!!

Give her a hug, she really is becoming a woman!! but lets hope she takes her time to experience adolescence first!!

hugs to you,

Susie

 

[timer lady]

Susie,

Thanks for reminding me to look at the good ~ I get so buried in ktbug's past antics that I'm always looking out for a dissociative state, a meltdown about to occur or her huge manipulations.

This was & is a morning ritual. I need to let go of my concerns & fears.

I will enjoy this ritual as long as it continues. I'm big into family rituals & events; this will become another.

Again, thank youl