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<blockquote data-quote="DaisyFace" data-source="post: 338603" data-attributes="member: 6546"><p>Hi Marg--</p><p> </p><p>The system is a little easier than it sounds. Let me see if I can clarify...</p><p> </p><p>difficult child can earn a total of 100 points per week. The first reward level starts at 80 points....so theoretically, she can reach a reward the very first week. The points are calculated every Friday.</p><p> </p><p>Conducting herself like a young lady (no cursing, swearing, name calling, dirty/inappropriate jokes and conversation, making faces or rude gestures) <strong>30 pts</strong></p><p> </p><p>Hygiene (keeping clean and wearing clean clothes every day, using deoderant, properly handling feminine products and situations) <strong>15 pts</strong></p><p> </p><p>Passing all her classes at school (even D minus OK) <strong>25 pts</strong></p><p> </p><p>Doing chores (correctly!) <strong>30 pts</strong></p><p> </p><p>AND she can even earn partial points in every category except school. So even if she skips a shower, still can still get points in Hygiene if she puts on clean clothes.</p><p> </p><p>Points accumulate each week until four weeks....then when she reaches week five, week one's points are dropped. (One + Two + Three + Four then Two + Three + Four + Five etc) This is easily tracked on a spreadsheet...and much easier to understand when it is printed out right in front of you.</p><p> </p><p>Yes, I feel that I have deliberately set her up for failure...but that's only because we have played this game before with behavior charts. So this time, I am not messing around.</p><p> </p><p>So far this week, difficult child is really upset about this behavior chart. She feels it's completely unfair to have all of this "responsibility". She keeps arguing that these expectations are unfair and a form of "punishment".</p><p> </p><p>And truth be told, her reaction does make me think "<em>Gosh! I really am being too hard on her. Maybe I should relax these requirements a little</em>!"</p><p> </p><p>But then, I remember the doctor explaining that husband and I have been babying her by not requiring her to behave like any other nearly-fifteen year old...</p><p> </p><p>And frankly, I cannot imagine why a young woman her age could <em>not</em> handle these responsibilities.</p><p> </p><p>So, we'll see how it goes...</p><p> </p><p>(so far, not very good.)</p><p> </p><p>--DaisyFace</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DaisyFace, post: 338603, member: 6546"] Hi Marg-- The system is a little easier than it sounds. Let me see if I can clarify... difficult child can earn a total of 100 points per week. The first reward level starts at 80 points....so theoretically, she can reach a reward the very first week. The points are calculated every Friday. Conducting herself like a young lady (no cursing, swearing, name calling, dirty/inappropriate jokes and conversation, making faces or rude gestures) [B]30 pts[/B] Hygiene (keeping clean and wearing clean clothes every day, using deoderant, properly handling feminine products and situations) [B]15 pts[/B] Passing all her classes at school (even D minus OK) [B]25 pts[/B] Doing chores (correctly!) [B]30 pts[/B] AND she can even earn partial points in every category except school. So even if she skips a shower, still can still get points in Hygiene if she puts on clean clothes. Points accumulate each week until four weeks....then when she reaches week five, week one's points are dropped. (One + Two + Three + Four then Two + Three + Four + Five etc) This is easily tracked on a spreadsheet...and much easier to understand when it is printed out right in front of you. Yes, I feel that I have deliberately set her up for failure...but that's only because we have played this game before with behavior charts. So this time, I am not messing around. So far this week, difficult child is really upset about this behavior chart. She feels it's completely unfair to have all of this "responsibility". She keeps arguing that these expectations are unfair and a form of "punishment". And truth be told, her reaction does make me think "[I]Gosh! I really am being too hard on her. Maybe I should relax these requirements a little[/I]!" But then, I remember the doctor explaining that husband and I have been babying her by not requiring her to behave like any other nearly-fifteen year old... And frankly, I cannot imagine why a young woman her age could [I]not[/I] handle these responsibilities. So, we'll see how it goes... (so far, not very good.) --DaisyFace [/QUOTE]
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