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<blockquote data-quote="graceupongrace" data-source="post: 338616" data-attributes="member: 7371"><p>DF,</p><p></p><p>Your expectations sound perfectly reasonable -- not at all unfair.</p><p></p><p>I roll my eyes every time some doctor suggests a behavior chart. Those things are fine for kids who are motivated by rewards. Most difficult children are not. Our psychiatrist explained to me that some brains are simply not wired that way. (He had a great clinical explanation that I couldn't repeat if I tried, lol.) Our kids respond to immediate gratification, not delayed reward. They're all about the "now."</p><p></p><p>When my difficult child was younger (pre-diagnosis) and we tried very simple behavior charts, I couldn't understand why he couldn't make it through a week of good behavior, even for something he really, really wanted. I learned from the psychiatrist that he just doesn't perceive the delayed reward as an incentive.</p><p></p><p>At age 15, it's not like your daughter doesn't know that she's supposed to bathe, wear deodorant, not swear, etc. She's making choices. But if the doctor is using the behavior chart process as a diagnostic tool to get a clearer understanding of your daughter's problems and how to help her, OK.</p><p></p><p>I know this is hard. Having a difficult child is like a typical teenager times 10!</p><p></p><p>Hugs.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="graceupongrace, post: 338616, member: 7371"] DF, Your expectations sound perfectly reasonable -- not at all unfair. I roll my eyes every time some doctor suggests a behavior chart. Those things are fine for kids who are motivated by rewards. Most difficult children are not. Our psychiatrist explained to me that some brains are simply not wired that way. (He had a great clinical explanation that I couldn't repeat if I tried, lol.) Our kids respond to immediate gratification, not delayed reward. They're all about the "now." When my difficult child was younger (pre-diagnosis) and we tried very simple behavior charts, I couldn't understand why he couldn't make it through a week of good behavior, even for something he really, really wanted. I learned from the psychiatrist that he just doesn't perceive the delayed reward as an incentive. At age 15, it's not like your daughter doesn't know that she's supposed to bathe, wear deodorant, not swear, etc. She's making choices. But if the doctor is using the behavior chart process as a diagnostic tool to get a clearer understanding of your daughter's problems and how to help her, OK. I know this is hard. Having a difficult child is like a typical teenager times 10! Hugs. [/QUOTE]
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