this is my first post, so i'm a bit nervous. if you've every seen the movie "Antwone Fisher", that is the story of our "difficult child". he came into our family 6 years ago. my brother adopted him as a single parent and saved him from a life of foster care. difficult child was born in jail to a mother who never bonded with him. he was placed in foster care for a short time and then returned to mother. difficult child was never given proper care- left alone, neglected and eventually found himself back in foster care at the age of 3. in foster care, he faced further neglect and sexual abuse. my brother, his adopted father, (who works in the field) started working with difficult child when he was 8. The foster home where difficult child was placed was no longer an option and my brother (the SAINT that he is) gave him a new life with our family. for a young boy who came from and was given NOTHING- no attention or love, staying inside all weekend reading books, a matchbox car at Christmas, when he walked into our family, he hit the JACKPOT! no one could love him more than his "noni" (grandmother), grandfather, aunts, uncles, cousins and espeially, his father and me. he has been given every advantage in life. We have unconditional love for this boy. He is a part of our family- NO QUESTIONS ASKED. you would think that he would realize how lucky he is to have a second chance in life and appreciate the love that has been given to him. he has chosen the opposite direction. he has destroyed prperty ($4,000 worth of windows), stolen alcohol, stolen his grandmother's truck on several occassions, has been in trouble with the law, been sexually active and used drugs and alcohol. he has NO REMORSE. i think what frustartes me the most is that underneath all of the anger and discord, he has a WONDERFUL heart and has the potential to fulfill any of his dreams. but he's really messing up and causing his family heartache, frustration and grief. whether you have lived through this or not... if you have any advice, know of a program or therapist to help, I, and my ffamily, would greatly appreciate it. i can't stand what he's doing to himself and my family. thanks for your time.