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<blockquote data-quote="InsaneCdn" data-source="post: 659598" data-attributes="member: 11791"><p>Meanwhile... from a different perspective. If she is staying in your home, YOU have the right to control certain things. Like... the internet can be turned off at night. Cell phones can be put in a central location for overnight charging - NOT kept in the bedrooms. Night is for sleeping (except for those who have shift work). Whether it is drugs, depression, some other mental illness, or something else entirely (or some combination), it will not hurt to adjust her schedule to be "normal".</p><p> </p><p>If you are providing all the groceries, then you have the right to require that those groceries be eaten at common meal times. She doesn't have the right to eat whatever she wants, whenever she feels like it. Food, like sleep, is a strong influence on our internal clock.</p><p> </p><p>If the only money she has is what you give her, then why do you give her any? She is 20. She is not in school. Therefore, she needs to earn any spending money. If you are paying for her cell phone, then you own it, not her... you control when it can be used, and whether it is even available. You have the right to cancel her off your plan (although the contract may have penalties).</p><p> </p><p>I'm not sure the first course of action would be to kick her out. Try setting some rules and boundaries around the things you CAN control, and see what happens.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="InsaneCdn, post: 659598, member: 11791"] Meanwhile... from a different perspective. If she is staying in your home, YOU have the right to control certain things. Like... the internet can be turned off at night. Cell phones can be put in a central location for overnight charging - NOT kept in the bedrooms. Night is for sleeping (except for those who have shift work). Whether it is drugs, depression, some other mental illness, or something else entirely (or some combination), it will not hurt to adjust her schedule to be "normal". If you are providing all the groceries, then you have the right to require that those groceries be eaten at common meal times. She doesn't have the right to eat whatever she wants, whenever she feels like it. Food, like sleep, is a strong influence on our internal clock. If the only money she has is what you give her, then why do you give her any? She is 20. She is not in school. Therefore, she needs to earn any spending money. If you are paying for her cell phone, then you own it, not her... you control when it can be used, and whether it is even available. You have the right to cancel her off your plan (although the contract may have penalties). I'm not sure the first course of action would be to kick her out. Try setting some rules and boundaries around the things you CAN control, and see what happens. [/QUOTE]
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