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Out patient rehab failed---waiting for a bed in residential treatment center
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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 371202" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>It's a heartbreaker and you do have my best wishes. Do you want "free" advice? I'm never quite sure when I soundlike a know-it-all <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/redface.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":redface:" title="redface :redface:" data-shortname=":redface:" /> and when I'm saving a family member from more heartbreak.</p><p> </p><p>Two things I did wrong (although it may not have made any difference). First I accepted recommendations for</p><p>a residential facility with-o questioning their program. Our</p><p>first facility was a mistake for our gson. Although they</p><p>had qualified staff we discovered later than at night and</p><p>on weekends they had almost minimum wage workers in charge of the boys and girls. Turns out the rules were not followed and there was fraternizing between the two groups. The last facility we used had 24/7 well trained people with consistenely enforced rules. by the way, the last one was "upper socio-economic" and yet they had a sliding scale that made it actually cheaper.</p><p> </p><p>Secondly, if we had it to do all over, we would find a facility that graduates into a residential maintenance program rather than releasing the kids with the hopes that they can stay away from bad friends, booze etc. by attending AA meetings. In most communities the AA meetings are dominated by older alcoholics and the teens/young people form no bonds.</p><p> </p><p>I can't tell you how much I am hoping and praying that this move helps your family. We've been on this road for ten years and I'm crossing my fingers you can get the longterm help needed. Many hugs. DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 371202, member: 35"] It's a heartbreaker and you do have my best wishes. Do you want "free" advice? I'm never quite sure when I soundlike a know-it-all :blushing: and when I'm saving a family member from more heartbreak. Two things I did wrong (although it may not have made any difference). First I accepted recommendations for a residential facility with-o questioning their program. Our first facility was a mistake for our gson. Although they had qualified staff we discovered later than at night and on weekends they had almost minimum wage workers in charge of the boys and girls. Turns out the rules were not followed and there was fraternizing between the two groups. The last facility we used had 24/7 well trained people with consistenely enforced rules. by the way, the last one was "upper socio-economic" and yet they had a sliding scale that made it actually cheaper. Secondly, if we had it to do all over, we would find a facility that graduates into a residential maintenance program rather than releasing the kids with the hopes that they can stay away from bad friends, booze etc. by attending AA meetings. In most communities the AA meetings are dominated by older alcoholics and the teens/young people form no bonds. I can't tell you how much I am hoping and praying that this move helps your family. We've been on this road for ten years and I'm crossing my fingers you can get the longterm help needed. Many hugs. DDD [/QUOTE]
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