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Outraged -they said send him home - OMG
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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 207315" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>You know - </p><p> </p><p>This is the "THING" that I've been advocating for for years. Each time a small amount of a program worked? They have pulled him out. Despite our disagreeing, it's always been what they wanted and this time no EVERYONE is shrugging about how this meeting ever came to be, and we've caught EVERYONE in a lie - so that means SOMETHING is WRONG. </p><p> </p><p>I'm not even sure if Dude is in his room this morning - last night he said he was giving his stuff away, and packing 1 bag he could carry and that everyone needs to see that HE HAS TRIED - and I agreed. I told him it wasn't perfect but we were happy with the progress. We just thought he needed to tweak school attendence - which last year was 2 days a week and this year he signed up for 4 days - and makes it about 3 weeks out of 4 all days - but has been known to leave early. about 15 minutes - and THIS is what they are ALL in a TIZZY about - NON COMPLIANCE for school????? </p><p> </p><p>Okay I could see if he never went - or went 1 day a week or went and left every day - but considering I could get him to go to school EVERY day WTH? TFP are not capable of saying "No you are going to school?" Is that not the rules? What have been the consequences for not going to school by the TFP? Just being kicked out? WOW - nice - no second chances? After ALL the other placements gave 2nd chances and this is just - NOPE he needs to go. </p><p> </p><p>They tried to tell me budget cuts etc....and I know that is true - but think about this - IF they are cutting their budget? WHY send him to a placement that is MORE expensive? (and I asked yesterday isn't THIS program MORE expensive?) and why can't he go to another foster home? And the answer was "Well with his record there are not many places that will take him." Um......HELLO - same record he had when you got him into foster care.....WT? ? </p><p> </p><p>I sat and just had my guts burn last night thinking about all of this. It's almost like it plays over and over and over and over in my head and it's got me sick. I can't eat (not a bad thing), I can't think - (keep thikning about MY kid going to jail for 15 years was enough and NOW to think that he'll be IN jail when he GOES to trial?) </p><p> </p><p>OH and to TOP IT ALL OFF - I called the secretary of the PD yesterday about the box that I left of Dudes ENTIRE medical history - I asked for a receipt - and the secretary said "No not necessary" and I called yesterday and she wouldn't even give me her NAME!!!! <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite4" alt=":mad:" title="Mad :mad:" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":mad:" /> I said I wanted your name because I left a medical history of my son - ALL ORIGINALS thousands of documents in your office and you have NO idea where it is now? OMG - ARE YOU KIDDING ME? She was snippy and insisted NO ONE had called the PD office for my son. NO ONE - caseworker lied again. She checked her records via some computer program (access maybe?) said no one had called.....I said that's nice....(southern for something else) </p><p> </p><p>How people......HOW do I walk away from this and not get involved? How do I put people in my sons path to help him who continually say "He's 18 now." He's 18 sure - but it's as if they expected a change overnight - he's a very damaged kid. VERY. I feel like telling them if I hear that he's 18 one more time that they are the kind of people who would expect him to see at 18 had he been blind from birth.....GRRRRrrrrr.......</p><p> </p><p>Help me make some sense of this please......nothing is working - even DF called the supervisor yesterday and laid it out and the man backpeddled and lied....and then put DF on the speaker phone. LOVELY - they felt the need to SHARE DF's thoughts? Yet he was right- we never sued them for the last Residential Treatment Center (RTC), the rollling down the hill being thrown from a car and laying on a mountain for 3 hous - or being hit by a car or not having food, education or anything......Where do I take this now? </p><p> </p><p>I am not sure I can butt out of this - or if I should just let jail happen and see my kid go to prison for 15 years. </p><p> </p><p>Just sick -</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 207315, member: 4964"] You know - This is the "THING" that I've been advocating for for years. Each time a small amount of a program worked? They have pulled him out. Despite our disagreeing, it's always been what they wanted and this time no EVERYONE is shrugging about how this meeting ever came to be, and we've caught EVERYONE in a lie - so that means SOMETHING is WRONG. I'm not even sure if Dude is in his room this morning - last night he said he was giving his stuff away, and packing 1 bag he could carry and that everyone needs to see that HE HAS TRIED - and I agreed. I told him it wasn't perfect but we were happy with the progress. We just thought he needed to tweak school attendence - which last year was 2 days a week and this year he signed up for 4 days - and makes it about 3 weeks out of 4 all days - but has been known to leave early. about 15 minutes - and THIS is what they are ALL in a TIZZY about - NON COMPLIANCE for school????? Okay I could see if he never went - or went 1 day a week or went and left every day - but considering I could get him to go to school EVERY day WTH? TFP are not capable of saying "No you are going to school?" Is that not the rules? What have been the consequences for not going to school by the TFP? Just being kicked out? WOW - nice - no second chances? After ALL the other placements gave 2nd chances and this is just - NOPE he needs to go. They tried to tell me budget cuts etc....and I know that is true - but think about this - IF they are cutting their budget? WHY send him to a placement that is MORE expensive? (and I asked yesterday isn't THIS program MORE expensive?) and why can't he go to another foster home? And the answer was "Well with his record there are not many places that will take him." Um......HELLO - same record he had when you got him into foster care.....WT? ? I sat and just had my guts burn last night thinking about all of this. It's almost like it plays over and over and over and over in my head and it's got me sick. I can't eat (not a bad thing), I can't think - (keep thikning about MY kid going to jail for 15 years was enough and NOW to think that he'll be IN jail when he GOES to trial?) OH and to TOP IT ALL OFF - I called the secretary of the PD yesterday about the box that I left of Dudes ENTIRE medical history - I asked for a receipt - and the secretary said "No not necessary" and I called yesterday and she wouldn't even give me her NAME!!!! :angry: I said I wanted your name because I left a medical history of my son - ALL ORIGINALS thousands of documents in your office and you have NO idea where it is now? OMG - ARE YOU KIDDING ME? She was snippy and insisted NO ONE had called the PD office for my son. NO ONE - caseworker lied again. She checked her records via some computer program (access maybe?) said no one had called.....I said that's nice....(southern for something else) How people......HOW do I walk away from this and not get involved? How do I put people in my sons path to help him who continually say "He's 18 now." He's 18 sure - but it's as if they expected a change overnight - he's a very damaged kid. VERY. I feel like telling them if I hear that he's 18 one more time that they are the kind of people who would expect him to see at 18 had he been blind from birth.....GRRRRrrrrr....... Help me make some sense of this please......nothing is working - even DF called the supervisor yesterday and laid it out and the man backpeddled and lied....and then put DF on the speaker phone. LOVELY - they felt the need to SHARE DF's thoughts? Yet he was right- we never sued them for the last Residential Treatment Center (RTC), the rollling down the hill being thrown from a car and laying on a mountain for 3 hous - or being hit by a car or not having food, education or anything......Where do I take this now? I am not sure I can butt out of this - or if I should just let jail happen and see my kid go to prison for 15 years. Just sick - [/QUOTE]
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