We had a homeschool group activity at our house today. It was a bigger group which difficult child 1 never does well with, socially. He is one of those kids that wants to do what the majority are doing but is never good at it and then he becomes aggressive. I have noticed he gets overstim. easily socially and sensory overstim too. If there are loud noises, lights ect or when ever he is near water his body spazzes. Today the group he was playing outside with is all boys, ages 7-11 and there are 7 of them. These boys like to play swords, good guy bad guy stuff. difficult child 1 never initiates this play at home with his toys or brother. Whenever difficult child 1 tries to get involved in this type of play, socially it equals fail. And then he ends up the only bad guy against the whole group. I can see he is out of control, he can feel it, and the others start to get mad at him, ask him to stop, or come tell me. He is being mean and aggressive at this point. If I ask him about it he will say the play fighting gets him out of control, he has also said this about some video games and will stop playing those "fighting" kind like Pokemon. My technique so far has been talking to him about "what ifs", role playing on how to remove himself. I have taught him breathing, counting to 10, ect to calm. I am lucky in that I am near and can help, but boy is it hard. Any other suggestions in teaching him the skills to calm when overstimulated, if this is the cause? Any been there done that? Thanks!