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<blockquote data-quote="mstang67chic" data-source="post: 275727" data-attributes="member: 2459"><p>First, and I'm coming into this late, welcome. Sorry you had to find us but this is a wealth of information, advice and most of all, support.</p><p></p><p>You've definately got your hands full. You have gotten some good advice and I can only think of one or two things to add. Is there anyway you could set up a hidden camcorder and get some of these behaviors on tape? Especially the ones that he doesn't show around his dad. Also, I would make a list of all of the issues that you see, especially the dangerous ones. Maybe presented to your husband in this way, with the video if you can get it, will force him to see there really is a problem. To do this though, you need to be alone and present it to him calmly and with understanding. No one wants to admit there is something "wrong" with their child but this boy needs some major help. The non-threatening behaviors are bad enough but he's already harmed others and is threatening you. (My opinion on him standing there while you sleep) I would tell your husband that while you know he loves his son, there is something going on that needs immediate attention. The other children have been hurt and this isn't just a kid being a boy. Tell him that you fear for the safety of your other kids AND yourself and possibly others outside the home and you are worried for EVERYONE including his son. I would also say that if things aren't addressed, you would be forced to move out with the other kids to protect them. You don't want to but for their safety, you would have no other choice. </p><p></p><p>This may very well affect your marriage but this child needs help and the other kids need to be safe, as do you and your husband. If your husband agrees, it will be a long road but you can do it. </p><p></p><p>Sending positive vibes and hugs.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="mstang67chic, post: 275727, member: 2459"] First, and I'm coming into this late, welcome. Sorry you had to find us but this is a wealth of information, advice and most of all, support. You've definately got your hands full. You have gotten some good advice and I can only think of one or two things to add. Is there anyway you could set up a hidden camcorder and get some of these behaviors on tape? Especially the ones that he doesn't show around his dad. Also, I would make a list of all of the issues that you see, especially the dangerous ones. Maybe presented to your husband in this way, with the video if you can get it, will force him to see there really is a problem. To do this though, you need to be alone and present it to him calmly and with understanding. No one wants to admit there is something "wrong" with their child but this boy needs some major help. The non-threatening behaviors are bad enough but he's already harmed others and is threatening you. (My opinion on him standing there while you sleep) I would tell your husband that while you know he loves his son, there is something going on that needs immediate attention. The other children have been hurt and this isn't just a kid being a boy. Tell him that you fear for the safety of your other kids AND yourself and possibly others outside the home and you are worried for EVERYONE including his son. I would also say that if things aren't addressed, you would be forced to move out with the other kids to protect them. You don't want to but for their safety, you would have no other choice. This may very well affect your marriage but this child needs help and the other kids need to be safe, as do you and your husband. If your husband agrees, it will be a long road but you can do it. Sending positive vibes and hugs. [/QUOTE]
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