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<blockquote data-quote="Desdamona" data-source="post: 278462" data-attributes="member: 7366"><p>Thank you for all the advice. I had a long talk with "Dad". I think, now, that a lot of the problem stems from him! He is in such denial. After our talk, he admitted that the boy has some issues, but that he just finds it hard hearing that his boy has issues. He also admitted that, although he sees the child eating his entire calorie count for the day in ONE meal, he is currently unwilling to do anything about it. </p><p>So I don't know if you would call this denial, or waiting it out, or what? I suggested that we go to yet another therapist. Dad really doesn't look forward to starting over with another therapist. But we have to get some kind of help!</p><p>I hear the advice about leaving. I don't think I will, yet. I watch him like a hawk when he's here, he hasn't hurt anybody lately. Also, I just don't think it's right to leave. I don't want to remove my baby from his Dad just because his 1/2 brother has issues. I don't want to sever all the relationships just because of one psycho-kid. To me, that is sending a message that it's okay to throw in the towel when things get tough. I will keep it as an option in the back of my head, but just not ready to do it, yet. I get the feeling that if we left, then came back, it would just add fuel to the boy's fire - he would think that we are ready to call it quits and step up his actions. </p><p>Somehow, I need to get "Dad" to take action. He is starting to realize there are issues. He still doesn't see some things, (or SAYS he doesn't ), like the separation anxiety. I don't think it's normal for an 8 1/2 yr. old to freak so much whenever his Dad is out of sight. I thought it was just a stage he would grow out of, but it's been 3 yrs. and he's showing no signs of letting up. </p><p>I am so thankful for all of you. At least I don't feel all alone/crazy anymore. Thanks for letting me vent and giving advice!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Desdamona, post: 278462, member: 7366"] Thank you for all the advice. I had a long talk with "Dad". I think, now, that a lot of the problem stems from him! He is in such denial. After our talk, he admitted that the boy has some issues, but that he just finds it hard hearing that his boy has issues. He also admitted that, although he sees the child eating his entire calorie count for the day in ONE meal, he is currently unwilling to do anything about it. So I don't know if you would call this denial, or waiting it out, or what? I suggested that we go to yet another therapist. Dad really doesn't look forward to starting over with another therapist. But we have to get some kind of help! I hear the advice about leaving. I don't think I will, yet. I watch him like a hawk when he's here, he hasn't hurt anybody lately. Also, I just don't think it's right to leave. I don't want to remove my baby from his Dad just because his 1/2 brother has issues. I don't want to sever all the relationships just because of one psycho-kid. To me, that is sending a message that it's okay to throw in the towel when things get tough. I will keep it as an option in the back of my head, but just not ready to do it, yet. I get the feeling that if we left, then came back, it would just add fuel to the boy's fire - he would think that we are ready to call it quits and step up his actions. Somehow, I need to get "Dad" to take action. He is starting to realize there are issues. He still doesn't see some things, (or SAYS he doesn't ), like the separation anxiety. I don't think it's normal for an 8 1/2 yr. old to freak so much whenever his Dad is out of sight. I thought it was just a stage he would grow out of, but it's been 3 yrs. and he's showing no signs of letting up. I am so thankful for all of you. At least I don't feel all alone/crazy anymore. Thanks for letting me vent and giving advice! [/QUOTE]
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