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<blockquote data-quote="IMSnoopee" data-source="post: 56603" data-attributes="member: 3740"><p>Hi-- </p><p>I'm new here and I'm just learning my way around. </p><p></p><p>I empathize with you on your child's suicide attempt. I worry my son will do the same -- he's 8. Having to deal with ODD and the impact it has on our family, our friends, and the judgemental looks from strangers is stressful as a parent, let alone a small kiddo who's self esteem just plummets. I truly hope you'll get the services your family needs. </p><p></p><p>As for reaching out -- I find it more difficult to ask family and friends for help than to ask mental health professionals. I am able to open up easier and allow myself to cry, and to accept their help and their encouragement. </p><p></p><p>Friends and family (for me) tend to not understand what I'm going through and either blame me as a parent or are entertained by my son's agressive behavior. (you know, the macho male crud?) I even work with people who are trained in children's mental health and it's hard for them to hear my concerns (I'm speaking of the co-workers I'm close friends with -- I don't go around work talking about all my personal stuff). And honestly, I don't want my friends and family judging me any more than they already do OR giving me unsolicited advise about something they don't really understand. </p><p></p><p>I've had to learn to accept help from 'strangers' in the MH field. I prefer reaching out to MH providers because they know the resources in our communities and they are trained to help with our situations. They are a reprieve from judgemental stares and the feeling of helplessness. </p><p></p><p>I am still learning, too. I'm learning to accept help, and to let people into my home for home wrap-around (eeck!), and to allow my son to take antidepressants. It's so scary sometimes. Just yesterday I had a breakdown and I needed to talk to someone. I called our employee assistance plan to talk to a counselor on the phone. I felt sooo much better and my head clearer when I was finished talking. </p><p></p><p>And if you're like me -- I hate my friends to see me cry-- it's so much easier with someone not emotionally involved with you. </p><p></p><p>Good luck to you and yours.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="IMSnoopee, post: 56603, member: 3740"] Hi-- I'm new here and I'm just learning my way around. I empathize with you on your child's suicide attempt. I worry my son will do the same -- he's 8. Having to deal with ODD and the impact it has on our family, our friends, and the judgemental looks from strangers is stressful as a parent, let alone a small kiddo who's self esteem just plummets. I truly hope you'll get the services your family needs. As for reaching out -- I find it more difficult to ask family and friends for help than to ask mental health professionals. I am able to open up easier and allow myself to cry, and to accept their help and their encouragement. Friends and family (for me) tend to not understand what I'm going through and either blame me as a parent or are entertained by my son's agressive behavior. (you know, the macho male crud?) I even work with people who are trained in children's mental health and it's hard for them to hear my concerns (I'm speaking of the co-workers I'm close friends with -- I don't go around work talking about all my personal stuff). And honestly, I don't want my friends and family judging me any more than they already do OR giving me unsolicited advise about something they don't really understand. I've had to learn to accept help from 'strangers' in the MH field. I prefer reaching out to MH providers because they know the resources in our communities and they are trained to help with our situations. They are a reprieve from judgemental stares and the feeling of helplessness. I am still learning, too. I'm learning to accept help, and to let people into my home for home wrap-around (eeck!), and to allow my son to take antidepressants. It's so scary sometimes. Just yesterday I had a breakdown and I needed to talk to someone. I called our employee assistance plan to talk to a counselor on the phone. I felt sooo much better and my head clearer when I was finished talking. And if you're like me -- I hate my friends to see me cry-- it's so much easier with someone not emotionally involved with you. Good luck to you and yours. [/QUOTE]
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