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<blockquote data-quote="meowbunny" data-source="post: 126220" data-attributes="member: 3626"><p>I think if your son was younger, the owner or manager would probably have been willing to give you the schedule. However, at 17, they are so close to adulthood that we really do lose a lot of the parental rights (of the few we do have to begin with) that we had. I doubt there are many employers who would be willing to give out that information to anyone for any reason on a 17 YO. The risks of liability for breach of confidentiality probably are too high.</p><p> </p><p>However, when my daughter was younger, I insisted that she write her schedule on the calendar to help her remember her schedule (true). It was also a way for me to keep track of what time I should be expecting her home. I also expected a phone call when the schedule changed while she was at work. She was pretty good about following that rule, especially after the one time she didn't and I went to her store in my jammies to make sure my baby girl was okay. (I even pretended I didn't see her and went straight to the manager.)</p><p> </p><p>Now, she is pretty much free to do as she will but I do ask that she do me the courtesy of letting me know when she expects to get home just so I don't worry. She's pretty good about doing this. She wasn't a few years ago.</p><p> </p><p>If you really want him fired from the job, there is a way to do it. Call every time he works on a school night and kvetch to the manager. Call when you know the owner will be in the store constantly to complain about his schedule and how it is affecting his grades. Drop by not to buy something but to loudly proclaim to his manager that he needs to get off early tonight to do his homework. Not a pretty thing to do, but it should work. If you cause enough disruption, they'll get the message. Of course, your son will be furious at your actions, so it is up to you which is more important -- school, coming home when's supposed to do or having him learn responsibility and have a feeling of independence. The trick is to teach that with that independence comes responsibilities not just on the job but in all aspects of his life (home, school, friends). He needs to learn how to balance that. It is not an easy task for any of us on either side of the coin.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="meowbunny, post: 126220, member: 3626"] I think if your son was younger, the owner or manager would probably have been willing to give you the schedule. However, at 17, they are so close to adulthood that we really do lose a lot of the parental rights (of the few we do have to begin with) that we had. I doubt there are many employers who would be willing to give out that information to anyone for any reason on a 17 YO. The risks of liability for breach of confidentiality probably are too high. However, when my daughter was younger, I insisted that she write her schedule on the calendar to help her remember her schedule (true). It was also a way for me to keep track of what time I should be expecting her home. I also expected a phone call when the schedule changed while she was at work. She was pretty good about following that rule, especially after the one time she didn't and I went to her store in my jammies to make sure my baby girl was okay. (I even pretended I didn't see her and went straight to the manager.) Now, she is pretty much free to do as she will but I do ask that she do me the courtesy of letting me know when she expects to get home just so I don't worry. She's pretty good about doing this. She wasn't a few years ago. If you really want him fired from the job, there is a way to do it. Call every time he works on a school night and kvetch to the manager. Call when you know the owner will be in the store constantly to complain about his schedule and how it is affecting his grades. Drop by not to buy something but to loudly proclaim to his manager that he needs to get off early tonight to do his homework. Not a pretty thing to do, but it should work. If you cause enough disruption, they'll get the message. Of course, your son will be furious at your actions, so it is up to you which is more important -- school, coming home when's supposed to do or having him learn responsibility and have a feeling of independence. The trick is to teach that with that independence comes responsibilities not just on the job but in all aspects of his life (home, school, friends). He needs to learn how to balance that. It is not an easy task for any of us on either side of the coin. [/QUOTE]
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