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<blockquote data-quote="Fran" data-source="post: 219565" data-attributes="member: 3"><p>"I often feel therapists, social workers, etc focus only on the needs of the client/patent. They feel that EVERY other family member should drop everything and ignore every personal need to make sure that the client/patient gets exactly what they think they need."</p><p></p><p>I feel as Susiestar has so well described that they think that difficult child is the center of the universe. If I don't put 110% into the class that I am somehow negligent to difficult child's needs. difficult child is but one cog that makes up this family. His needs are not more important than any other of the 3 of us. We fully intend to continue having a good family life with or without difficult child. </p><p></p><p>Frankly, I gave difficult child years of my life and I don't really want to anymore. I love him and I hold some hope but I don't want to be in a holding pattern because I need to weld myself to difficult child's life.</p><p>He can learn and come along on our family's journey, or he can do the same things over and over. If he chooses the latter he will not be able to share all the same experiences and he will feel somewhat left behind. It is his choice. </p><p></p><p>I find I am weary of all the information and talking heads. They mean well but I am skeptical that they really know what our lives with difficult child is really like. I don't want to have to justify my decisions to anyone and probably won't. The professionals in Texas have seen difficult child grow up. They know what state he was in and how much he has grown and improved. Here we are unknown, Yet! LOL</p><p></p><p>If there is something out there for difficult child we will find it but it isn't going to be something that I have to be the one to volunteer time anymore. difficult child needs to volunteer time and do the work required. </p><p></p><p>It will be interesting to see if he will attend the classes or if he actually learns things that he applies to his life. I already have some suggestions and thoughts on how the facilitator can help difficult child. (can't change my spots no matter how much I try).</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Fran, post: 219565, member: 3"] "I often feel therapists, social workers, etc focus only on the needs of the client/patent. They feel that EVERY other family member should drop everything and ignore every personal need to make sure that the client/patient gets exactly what they think they need." I feel as Susiestar has so well described that they think that difficult child is the center of the universe. If I don't put 110% into the class that I am somehow negligent to difficult child's needs. difficult child is but one cog that makes up this family. His needs are not more important than any other of the 3 of us. We fully intend to continue having a good family life with or without difficult child. Frankly, I gave difficult child years of my life and I don't really want to anymore. I love him and I hold some hope but I don't want to be in a holding pattern because I need to weld myself to difficult child's life. He can learn and come along on our family's journey, or he can do the same things over and over. If he chooses the latter he will not be able to share all the same experiences and he will feel somewhat left behind. It is his choice. I find I am weary of all the information and talking heads. They mean well but I am skeptical that they really know what our lives with difficult child is really like. I don't want to have to justify my decisions to anyone and probably won't. The professionals in Texas have seen difficult child grow up. They know what state he was in and how much he has grown and improved. Here we are unknown, Yet! LOL If there is something out there for difficult child we will find it but it isn't going to be something that I have to be the one to volunteer time anymore. difficult child needs to volunteer time and do the work required. It will be interesting to see if he will attend the classes or if he actually learns things that he applies to his life. I already have some suggestions and thoughts on how the facilitator can help difficult child. (can't change my spots no matter how much I try). [/QUOTE]
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