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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 219591" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>Follow-up thoughts - I can see the need to educate a family about an illness and things to look out for, ways to help, etc., if a diagnosis for any type of serious illness has just been made, but that is not the situation here. And I'm not so sure that would be called family therapy anyway.</p><p></p><p>When I was doing a little research about different types of therapies I read some articles online that were for professionals, in preofessional magazines and such. It does say that a lot of times, family therapy is specificly to help the "identified patient" by concentrating on change from the whole family, the entire family structure, instead of concentrating solely on the client. There were even forms for the therapist to use to log down the "problem area" of the family that effeected the identified client. Clearly, it was an approach to helping a dysfunctional family. </p><p></p><p>That's fine if it's being a dysfunctional family that is <em><strong>causing</strong></em> the problem. But I really believe that those of us here have changed our family dynamics to make things as easy as possible in dealing with kids who have issues. I believe it is the kid's illness that needs to be dealt with, and we would all LOVE to get our families back to more normalcy. Going back to normalcy without dealing with the kid's issue leaves us back to where we were when problems were first exhibited, in my humble opinion, which is why most of us end up feeling like we're teaching the therapist. So, for me, my first goal anymore is to make sure that therapist accepts and understands what problem we are in there for and finding out if that is going to be the focus of the therapy.</p><p></p><p>Getting back to Fran- (I'm rambliing and don't want to hijack your post)- I'd feel exactly as you do. It's almost tempting to call them up and start asking questions about this therapy just to get them backed in a corner about <em><strong>exactly why</strong></em> do they think you need it and what would one hope to gain from it as a parent of a 24 yo? If you were trying to contrrol and take responsibility for everything in your son's life at his age, you would have much more need for therapy, in my humble opinion (unless he was mentally incapable of making decisions for himself).</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 219591, member: 3699"] Follow-up thoughts - I can see the need to educate a family about an illness and things to look out for, ways to help, etc., if a diagnosis for any type of serious illness has just been made, but that is not the situation here. And I'm not so sure that would be called family therapy anyway. When I was doing a little research about different types of therapies I read some articles online that were for professionals, in preofessional magazines and such. It does say that a lot of times, family therapy is specificly to help the "identified patient" by concentrating on change from the whole family, the entire family structure, instead of concentrating solely on the client. There were even forms for the therapist to use to log down the "problem area" of the family that effeected the identified client. Clearly, it was an approach to helping a dysfunctional family. That's fine if it's being a dysfunctional family that is [I][B]causing[/B][/I] the problem. But I really believe that those of us here have changed our family dynamics to make things as easy as possible in dealing with kids who have issues. I believe it is the kid's illness that needs to be dealt with, and we would all LOVE to get our families back to more normalcy. Going back to normalcy without dealing with the kid's issue leaves us back to where we were when problems were first exhibited, in my humble opinion, which is why most of us end up feeling like we're teaching the therapist. So, for me, my first goal anymore is to make sure that therapist accepts and understands what problem we are in there for and finding out if that is going to be the focus of the therapy. Getting back to Fran- (I'm rambliing and don't want to hijack your post)- I'd feel exactly as you do. It's almost tempting to call them up and start asking questions about this therapy just to get them backed in a corner about [I][B]exactly why[/B][/I] do they think you need it and what would one hope to gain from it as a parent of a 24 yo? If you were trying to contrrol and take responsibility for everything in your son's life at his age, you would have much more need for therapy, in my humble opinion (unless he was mentally incapable of making decisions for himself). [/QUOTE]
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