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<blockquote data-quote="Calista" data-source="post: 117189" data-attributes="member: 666"><p>I know exactly what you mean. It seems to be impossible to parent a high strung Aspie because they are smarter than we are and always 9 steps ahead. I wish I had the answers, I'd be a millionaire. Especially now that we are entering PUBERTY :surprise:</p><p></p><p>One of the things that worked for us when our Aspie was your Aspie's age was a token economy. A VERY EASY to apply token economy with only a few target behaviors like: Arguing, Eating, Ready On Time, and Chore. We broke it down into different sections of the day: Before School, After School, Before Bedtime and Bedtime. If he had a perfect day at school he earned a bonus token, otherwise school took care of school. We only rewarded, we did not take away what was already earned. He was then able to buy computer time, video game time, or a sweet snack after school. We used this successfully for about a year with some tweeking every now and then. He was in complete control and I didn't have to yell at him for anything. Now, 3 years later, he is always ready on time, gets off the games when asked (most of the time), rarely argues with us, etc... I'm sure some of the improvement is maturity but I KNOW that token economy worked and some of what he learned from that is still "in there" somewhere.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Calista, post: 117189, member: 666"] I know exactly what you mean. It seems to be impossible to parent a high strung Aspie because they are smarter than we are and always 9 steps ahead. I wish I had the answers, I'd be a millionaire. Especially now that we are entering PUBERTY [img]:surprise:[/img] One of the things that worked for us when our Aspie was your Aspie's age was a token economy. A VERY EASY to apply token economy with only a few target behaviors like: Arguing, Eating, Ready On Time, and Chore. We broke it down into different sections of the day: Before School, After School, Before Bedtime and Bedtime. If he had a perfect day at school he earned a bonus token, otherwise school took care of school. We only rewarded, we did not take away what was already earned. He was then able to buy computer time, video game time, or a sweet snack after school. We used this successfully for about a year with some tweeking every now and then. He was in complete control and I didn't have to yell at him for anything. Now, 3 years later, he is always ready on time, gets off the games when asked (most of the time), rarely argues with us, etc... I'm sure some of the improvement is maturity but I KNOW that token economy worked and some of what he learned from that is still "in there" somewhere. [/QUOTE]
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