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<blockquote data-quote="Fran" data-source="post: 117191" data-attributes="member: 3"><p>I truly don't know if there is an answer on how to stop it as much as diminish it as much as possible and reteach, redirect and reason. </p><p>Things that worked at 8 don't work now. At that age, it was distraction, trying to help him work it out and give him alternatives to what ever was causing the meltdown. </p><p>An Aspie isn't the enemy who should be beaten. He is a child with a disorder who manifest symptoms that look like a bratty child. Of course, there is normal brattiness over that. Try to focus on what he needs from you to help him work out whatever it is that's a problem. </p><p>Tell him ahead of time what to expect. Help him not get overwhelmed. </p><p>If we were going someplace that might make him anxious, we role played and spoke of what would happen and what he should do to act appropriate. </p><p>If it were a new school. We went in the day before and toured, found the bathroom, cafeteria, nurse's office, principal. If possible met the teacher so his anxiety would be lessened. </p><p></p><p>I think I just survived. I kept asking myself "what does he need" and not just the topic of his meltdown. "what's fueling this meltdown?", "what can I do differently to help avoid another situation that caused a meltdown". It really was my mantra for years. </p><p>He still had a lot of explosions and still does but they are relatively harmless. I ask often "how would you feel if I did, talked or exploded as you do?" "what would you do if you were the parent and I acted as you do?" </p><p>I'm hoping that I am teaching him tools of seeing who he is and understanding he must adapt to have the independent life he says he wants.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Fran, post: 117191, member: 3"] I truly don't know if there is an answer on how to stop it as much as diminish it as much as possible and reteach, redirect and reason. Things that worked at 8 don't work now. At that age, it was distraction, trying to help him work it out and give him alternatives to what ever was causing the meltdown. An Aspie isn't the enemy who should be beaten. He is a child with a disorder who manifest symptoms that look like a bratty child. Of course, there is normal brattiness over that. Try to focus on what he needs from you to help him work out whatever it is that's a problem. Tell him ahead of time what to expect. Help him not get overwhelmed. If we were going someplace that might make him anxious, we role played and spoke of what would happen and what he should do to act appropriate. If it were a new school. We went in the day before and toured, found the bathroom, cafeteria, nurse's office, principal. If possible met the teacher so his anxiety would be lessened. I think I just survived. I kept asking myself "what does he need" and not just the topic of his meltdown. "what's fueling this meltdown?", "what can I do differently to help avoid another situation that caused a meltdown". It really was my mantra for years. He still had a lot of explosions and still does but they are relatively harmless. I ask often "how would you feel if I did, talked or exploded as you do?" "what would you do if you were the parent and I acted as you do?" I'm hoping that I am teaching him tools of seeing who he is and understanding he must adapt to have the independent life he says he wants. [/QUOTE]
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