OK, so I got your attention... LOL. Real question, though... all the specialists etc. that we can find, will put lots of focus on the difficult child, but never look further than that. SO... when part of the problem is wife and/or husband... How do you convince specialists that WE might have problems too? Even harder - how do you get help for ADULTS??? (not ODD, but... all sorts of stuff - adhd/Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD)/odpd/yadayadayada) Just wondering... Thanks!