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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 655055" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>I think forgiveness has more than one side. For me I made the choice to forgive my bio-father for the abuse he inflicted upon me and also to forgive my son for the hell and chaos he put me through. Forgiving those who have hurt me allows me to move on, to let go of the hurt and anger, to not allow the other person to hold my emotions hostage, however, it does not mean I forget what they have done. Forgiving someone does not mean you automatically trust them again, trust is something that has to be earned back and in order for that to happen the other person would have to start by asking for forgiveness followed by actions that show they are truly sorry.</p><p></p><p>What you said sounds like forgiveness to me, especially the part about things coming out of the box sometimes and having to put them away again. That's the part about not forgetting. When I see a news report about a child molester it can stir up all those old emotions of anger and hurt but I am pretty quick to recognize it and let it go, to re-forgive, to put it back in the box.</p><p></p><p></p><p>I really like what COM posted:</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>I've been there!! I too am very careful who I share with. I've had people gossip behind my back after sharing some personal information. Live and learn.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 655055, member: 18516"] I think forgiveness has more than one side. For me I made the choice to forgive my bio-father for the abuse he inflicted upon me and also to forgive my son for the hell and chaos he put me through. Forgiving those who have hurt me allows me to move on, to let go of the hurt and anger, to not allow the other person to hold my emotions hostage, however, it does not mean I forget what they have done. Forgiving someone does not mean you automatically trust them again, trust is something that has to be earned back and in order for that to happen the other person would have to start by asking for forgiveness followed by actions that show they are truly sorry. What you said sounds like forgiveness to me, especially the part about things coming out of the box sometimes and having to put them away again. That's the part about not forgetting. When I see a news report about a child molester it can stir up all those old emotions of anger and hurt but I am pretty quick to recognize it and let it go, to re-forgive, to put it back in the box. I really like what COM posted: I've been there!! I too am very careful who I share with. I've had people gossip behind my back after sharing some personal information. Live and learn. [/QUOTE]
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