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<blockquote data-quote="1905" data-source="post: 21250" data-attributes="member: 2668"><p>My difficult child was a total bum-ruling the roost, wrecking the house, stealing...His answer to get a job was..."Why should I?" he didn't care, that not caring was something I couldn't change and that is exactly how he acted-cursing at us,telling me how he was going to hurt me...now he is out of here and I have no relationship with him at this time(over a year)(husband does, though) BUT he works, has benefits and supports himself. BECAUSE HE HAS NO CHOICE. He can hold it together enough to work. He has ODD. I'm happy he can take care of himself. There was no other way to get to this point. On the one hand it breaks my heart, but on the other I'm so happy he is a productive member of society. Your difficult child is just going to get older, and it will be harder if you keep letting this go on. She will surprise you and rise to the occasion. Of course expect her to have a "fit" in some form or another while she waits for you to change your mind and do something to get her out of her "mess". Help her come up with a plan. She loves where she is at and thrives on the craziness and doesn't give a darn about you or husband. You two are taking care of her and thats fine with her, why would she ever want to change that and help herself? Make her. You have to for her sake. And your sanity.-Alyssa</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="1905, post: 21250, member: 2668"] My difficult child was a total bum-ruling the roost, wrecking the house, stealing...His answer to get a job was..."Why should I?" he didn't care, that not caring was something I couldn't change and that is exactly how he acted-cursing at us,telling me how he was going to hurt me...now he is out of here and I have no relationship with him at this time(over a year)(husband does, though) BUT he works, has benefits and supports himself. BECAUSE HE HAS NO CHOICE. He can hold it together enough to work. He has ODD. I'm happy he can take care of himself. There was no other way to get to this point. On the one hand it breaks my heart, but on the other I'm so happy he is a productive member of society. Your difficult child is just going to get older, and it will be harder if you keep letting this go on. She will surprise you and rise to the occasion. Of course expect her to have a "fit" in some form or another while she waits for you to change your mind and do something to get her out of her "mess". Help her come up with a plan. She loves where she is at and thrives on the craziness and doesn't give a darn about you or husband. You two are taking care of her and thats fine with her, why would she ever want to change that and help herself? Make her. You have to for her sake. And your sanity.-Alyssa [/QUOTE]
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