Sheila
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So, husband thinks difficult child may need a phone. Ive already said a resounding no. But, I know exactly whats going on.
Frans locking her boys in the SUV driving down the highway for the talk, is in reverse here. difficult child is way ahead of dad. Every day on the way to school and on the return trip, difficult child is badgering husband for a cell phone. husband just wants to get difficult child one so difficult child will SHUT UP ABOUT IT.
difficult child was temporarily in a program wherein he didnt get out of school until 4:15 pm. So we had bus transportation written into the IEP.
By this time Im recooperating from surgery and dad is having to be a full-time dad and also the Warrior Dad. (Did you know he cant get a dang thing done having to parent difficult child 24/7? Yea, yea my heart bleeds for him. Know exactly what he means.)
First day. difficult child goes to get on the bus and hes stopped. Bus driver tells difficult child, I dont go that way. School is locked and the two teachers there will not allow difficult child to use their phones (assuming they have a cell on them).
So I get a call about 4:45 or 5:00 pm.. I didnt recognize the number on the caller ID, but its difficult child. He called to tell me he was walking to after-school care with some other kids (+/-3 miles from school along a busy highway and through a dangerous area), and somebody stopped and offered him a ride. Talk about coming out of a drug induced stupor.
Turned out it was a boy difficult child had been in 4th grade with-and his mom stopped and delivered difficult child to his appointed destination.
Day 2. husband talks to somebody when he drops difficult child off. Explained what had happened, expressed his displeasure everything will be ok hes told. I email the AP. difficult child goes to get on the bus on day 2, and they wont let him on because he lives out of district.
This time though, they produced a cell phone so he could call a parent. difficult child called me; I called husbandhe was ticked. He had to leave a crew working and run pick up difficult child. Good thing he wasnt out-of-town, because I couldnt drive. And YES, they knew I couldnt drive.
From that day forward, husband picked difficult child up everyday at 4:15 pm. However, it was proved to me that we can trust our child with absolutely no one. It upset husband so badly that he bought difficult child a cell phone anyway. They didnt leave me a leg to stand on, and it scared the begeebers out of me also.
difficult child got his cell on a Friday night. I told husband he was in charge of monitoring difficult childs cell phone use Im just not up to it right now. So, husband is back at the phone store on Monday trying to get restrictions in place, yadda, yadda. difficult child had already sent 792 text messages. husband couldnt believe it. I just roflmbo at husband. (Welcome to parenting 201.)
By they difficult child had already downloaded ringtones. Its been quiet amusing watching husband try to catch up with-difficult child. Lol
husband restricted the phone during school hours and after 9:00 pm on school nights. Weekends the restriction kicks in at 11:00 pm (too late in my opinion).
My rules are only:
1) THE VERY FIRST TIME I hear from the school about it being out of pocket or binder on the school grounds its gone.
2) When grounded from the phone, that means cell phone also.
And I must say that thus far the cell phone has been a right nice little carrot for when I need to use the big stick.
Another funny about difficult child and husband. difficult child spent the night with-a friend of his Saturday. husband was checking usage Monday. husband said there was a ton of calls on difficult childs phone from the boy that difficult child was spending the night with and at the time difficult child was there. husband asked him what that was about. difficult child and friend were playing hide and seek using their cell phone as the item to be found .. husband just shook his head .
Im feeling rather relaxed these days. Course, now, husband is totally worn out. roflol
Frans locking her boys in the SUV driving down the highway for the talk, is in reverse here. difficult child is way ahead of dad. Every day on the way to school and on the return trip, difficult child is badgering husband for a cell phone. husband just wants to get difficult child one so difficult child will SHUT UP ABOUT IT.
difficult child was temporarily in a program wherein he didnt get out of school until 4:15 pm. So we had bus transportation written into the IEP.
By this time Im recooperating from surgery and dad is having to be a full-time dad and also the Warrior Dad. (Did you know he cant get a dang thing done having to parent difficult child 24/7? Yea, yea my heart bleeds for him. Know exactly what he means.)
First day. difficult child goes to get on the bus and hes stopped. Bus driver tells difficult child, I dont go that way. School is locked and the two teachers there will not allow difficult child to use their phones (assuming they have a cell on them).
So I get a call about 4:45 or 5:00 pm.. I didnt recognize the number on the caller ID, but its difficult child. He called to tell me he was walking to after-school care with some other kids (+/-3 miles from school along a busy highway and through a dangerous area), and somebody stopped and offered him a ride. Talk about coming out of a drug induced stupor.
Turned out it was a boy difficult child had been in 4th grade with-and his mom stopped and delivered difficult child to his appointed destination. Day 2. husband talks to somebody when he drops difficult child off. Explained what had happened, expressed his displeasure everything will be ok hes told. I email the AP. difficult child goes to get on the bus on day 2, and they wont let him on because he lives out of district.
This time though, they produced a cell phone so he could call a parent. difficult child called me; I called husbandhe was ticked. He had to leave a crew working and run pick up difficult child. Good thing he wasnt out-of-town, because I couldnt drive. And YES, they knew I couldnt drive.
From that day forward, husband picked difficult child up everyday at 4:15 pm. However, it was proved to me that we can trust our child with absolutely no one. It upset husband so badly that he bought difficult child a cell phone anyway. They didnt leave me a leg to stand on, and it scared the begeebers out of me also.
difficult child got his cell on a Friday night. I told husband he was in charge of monitoring difficult childs cell phone use Im just not up to it right now. So, husband is back at the phone store on Monday trying to get restrictions in place, yadda, yadda. difficult child had already sent 792 text messages. husband couldnt believe it. I just roflmbo at husband. (Welcome to parenting 201.)
By they difficult child had already downloaded ringtones. Its been quiet amusing watching husband try to catch up with-difficult child. Lol
husband restricted the phone during school hours and after 9:00 pm on school nights. Weekends the restriction kicks in at 11:00 pm (too late in my opinion).
My rules are only:
1) THE VERY FIRST TIME I hear from the school about it being out of pocket or binder on the school grounds its gone.
2) When grounded from the phone, that means cell phone also.
And I must say that thus far the cell phone has been a right nice little carrot for when I need to use the big stick.
Another funny about difficult child and husband. difficult child spent the night with-a friend of his Saturday. husband was checking usage Monday. husband said there was a ton of calls on difficult childs phone from the boy that difficult child was spending the night with and at the time difficult child was there. husband asked him what that was about. difficult child and friend were playing hide and seek using their cell phone as the item to be found .. husband just shook his head .
Im feeling rather relaxed these days. Course, now, husband is totally worn out. roflol
