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AmericanGirl
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About last October, difficult child was fighting with his ex-girlfriend. They have a history of being cruel to each other. He told her he had a 3 month old daughter. (Fool didn't close the computer with FB open. Plz don't condemn me.)
I didn't say a word because I felt he was just manipulating her as she loves little children, especially girls. She does similar to him.
Then, last night, while packing up difficult child's apartment (cause he refused to do so...sigh) I saw the words "My daughter" on a piece of paper. It was a Step Two workbook. The question was "Name the four most important people in your life."
So, I opened his laptop and searched for pics. There were four marked with this child's name. All dates right after he left in-patient.
Keep in mind I live in a small town. I cannot imagine him getting someone pregnant and no one breathing a word to me nor asking him for financial help.
I go through all his old girlfriend's facebook pages...looking for baby pics and/or pregnancy pics. Nada.
When he got back, I asked him if he had a child. "No, what makes you think that?" "Well it appears you told your ex that."
I waited to discuss the pics while in the therapist's office this morning. difficult child denied. Said he was trying to "mess" with ex-girlfriend.
I asked therapist if he knew if difficult child had ever told anyone he was a father. Answer was no.
All in all, I don't believe there is a child. I called several close friends and confided in them today. They swore they never heard anything about it but would tell me if they ever did. Also, one of these photos was professionally taken. It had a pillow in it with a large "M". difficult child does understand about props but since he gave me a "B' name, I doubt they would use a "M' pillow. Make sense? However, I don't understand why "my daughter" was written in his workbook.
All in all though, it showed me how very manipulative he is. What little trust he built recently is gone.
Wanted to put it out there in case any of you (you wise, wise warrior moms) saw anything I didn't see.
Have I mentioned how incredibly grateful I am that he is almost 100 miles away from me? May God bless all those who worked in rehab/recovery...
I didn't say a word because I felt he was just manipulating her as she loves little children, especially girls. She does similar to him.
Then, last night, while packing up difficult child's apartment (cause he refused to do so...sigh) I saw the words "My daughter" on a piece of paper. It was a Step Two workbook. The question was "Name the four most important people in your life."
So, I opened his laptop and searched for pics. There were four marked with this child's name. All dates right after he left in-patient.
Keep in mind I live in a small town. I cannot imagine him getting someone pregnant and no one breathing a word to me nor asking him for financial help.
I go through all his old girlfriend's facebook pages...looking for baby pics and/or pregnancy pics. Nada.
When he got back, I asked him if he had a child. "No, what makes you think that?" "Well it appears you told your ex that."
I waited to discuss the pics while in the therapist's office this morning. difficult child denied. Said he was trying to "mess" with ex-girlfriend.
I asked therapist if he knew if difficult child had ever told anyone he was a father. Answer was no.
All in all, I don't believe there is a child. I called several close friends and confided in them today. They swore they never heard anything about it but would tell me if they ever did. Also, one of these photos was professionally taken. It had a pillow in it with a large "M". difficult child does understand about props but since he gave me a "B' name, I doubt they would use a "M' pillow. Make sense? However, I don't understand why "my daughter" was written in his workbook.
All in all though, it showed me how very manipulative he is. What little trust he built recently is gone.
Wanted to put it out there in case any of you (you wise, wise warrior moms) saw anything I didn't see.
Have I mentioned how incredibly grateful I am that he is almost 100 miles away from me? May God bless all those who worked in rehab/recovery...