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<blockquote data-quote="tiredmommy" data-source="post: 382158" data-attributes="member: 1722"><p>Welcome jrdoodles, I'm sorry that you've had to find us but hope we can offer you the support you need. You aren't alone anymore! I feel a certain affinity to you because I also have a 9.5 year old fourth grader. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p> </p><p>Frankly, it sounds like more than ADHD and ODD to me. When was the last time he received a comprehensive evaluation? Also, the wrong medications can sometimes make things worse so it's important that a thorough evaluation take place. Your son sounds like he may be a difficult case to figure out: he has been diagnosed with two behavior disorders, he may be suffering from emotional issues due to his father's death and his grandmother has routinely undermined your authority. It's a pretty potent mix. Was his bio-father diagnosed with any mental health or developmental conditions? Many of these conditions have a huge genetic component. Also, does he have any underlying health issues? His lacks of sleep could be caused by many issues: asthma & allergies at our house; anxiety or a mood disorder also come to mind.</p><p> </p><p>I'm very concerned about his treatment toward his sister and your dog. You need to come up with a safety plan to keep both safe. You may want to consider re-homing your dog at least until your difficult child's issues are better understood and controlled. And both your daughter and dog should never be left alone with difficult child (I'm serious).</p><p> </p><p>As for your mother... do not allow her to care for son going forward. I know that is easier said than done but it's going to necessary to regain control of your family. One book I will recommend is The Explosive Child by Dr. Ross Greene. It will not cure ODD or any underlying disorders but will help you to determine those behaviors to address first, second and so on.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="tiredmommy, post: 382158, member: 1722"] Welcome jrdoodles, I'm sorry that you've had to find us but hope we can offer you the support you need. You aren't alone anymore! I feel a certain affinity to you because I also have a 9.5 year old fourth grader. :) Frankly, it sounds like more than ADHD and ODD to me. When was the last time he received a comprehensive evaluation? Also, the wrong medications can sometimes make things worse so it's important that a thorough evaluation take place. Your son sounds like he may be a difficult case to figure out: he has been diagnosed with two behavior disorders, he may be suffering from emotional issues due to his father's death and his grandmother has routinely undermined your authority. It's a pretty potent mix. Was his bio-father diagnosed with any mental health or developmental conditions? Many of these conditions have a huge genetic component. Also, does he have any underlying health issues? His lacks of sleep could be caused by many issues: asthma & allergies at our house; anxiety or a mood disorder also come to mind. I'm very concerned about his treatment toward his sister and your dog. You need to come up with a safety plan to keep both safe. You may want to consider re-homing your dog at least until your difficult child's issues are better understood and controlled. And both your daughter and dog should never be left alone with difficult child (I'm serious). As for your mother... do not allow her to care for son going forward. I know that is easier said than done but it's going to necessary to regain control of your family. One book I will recommend is The Explosive Child by Dr. Ross Greene. It will not cure ODD or any underlying disorders but will help you to determine those behaviors to address first, second and so on. [/QUOTE]
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