I recently found electronic correspondence dated almost two years agowhere I openly confronted the woman my husband and I suspected was attempting to usurp our parental authority. It turns out NOW, almost two full years later... It is ONE FULL YEAR SINCE THAT WOMAN INSTRUCTED OUR DAUGHTER TO CUT ALL TIES WITH US and has been GLEEFULLY "playing mommy" to my our adult-daughter!!!!!! That woman NEEDED to be confronted. Hindsight is 20/20. Oh, that we had confronted her more strongly!!!!! One major glitch at the time I initially addressed her was our RADdaughter lied to my husband and me about details of the situation we were confronting. (Surprise! Surprise!!! ...oh. wait tell me again about the symptoms of Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD)? Believing our adultRADdaughter made US look silly. (Explain to me again... how does this Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) thing works? ohhhh....!) So... I was off on the IRRELEVANT details, YET I had hit the heart of the issue right in the dead center of the bulls-eye! In that back-and-forth correspondence I apologized for my foolishness in believing my daughter, but I maintained that the GIST of what was happening was majorly inappropriate... We had an inkling! We knew!!! That woman was ABSOLUTELY trying to usurp our parental authority over our 21-year-old-young-adult-living-at-OUR-home-Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD)-daughter. The last full year is so-much-more evidence than ANYONE-with-a-brain could ever need. ...THAT WOMAN responded to my JUSTIFIED concerns by TELLING ME that I have "SERIOUS BOUNDARY ISSUES." AND I "need to realize" that MY DAUGHTER IS AN ADULT! So... for more than the last full year our adult-Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD)-daughter has been living with her new "mommy and daddy" sleeping in their baby bed, eating their baby food being the little baby girl they never had. Explain to me AGAIN how I need to realize that our daughter is an Adult? This is not a "peer" our "adult" Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD)-daughter has moved in with. It is a woman a few years older than me and that woman's "current" husband old enough to be my daughter's great-grandfather! They supposedly "fell in love" while they were in church married to other spouses at the time. They supposedly realized that was wrong after devastating the lives of those closest to them and "turned a new leaf" in a different church, which they were later "wrongly" kicked out of. ...tell me again how I have boundary issues? (Our daughter, "Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) incarnate" even lists the wicked woman and her wicked husband as her "mommy and daddy" online.) A third party observer told me not too long ago it is "SICK" the way "that EVIL woman and her husband" are behaving!!!!!! Funny/Sad sidenote... When the 30-days were up for my daughter to collect the belongings I had moved into a storage facility, the young woman working at the storage center asked me "Who is THAT WOMAN your daughter comes in here with?" Interesting thing is... that woman; an overzealous-internet-student-of-counseling who constantly lives well past the borders of anything that appears remotely ethical, told me BEFORE ANY OF THIS TRANSPIRED that she was fascinated to learn VIA "e-mail-University" that "when people who accuse others of ridiculous unfounded motives it is usually a huge indicator that accusations being asserted are actually things THE ACCUSER THEM-SELF has major psychiatric issues with."...ya think?!!!!!!! Shopping for a "new mommy" is TYPICAL Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) BEHAVIOR. see link below... http://adoption.families.com/blog/ten-ways-to-support-to-a-Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD)-mom Number 5 out of the top 10... TRUE FRIENDS of adoptive parents will not "fall into the trap of hearing the child say, "I wish you were my mom, you are much better then the one I got." Children with Reactive Attachment Disorder often shop for new, improved and better parents."