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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 538903" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>Yes talents are not fair. Same goes to sport, music and academics. Though it has also a lot to do with working hard and passion. They said that you need 10 000 hours of practice to really master something. And it has less to do some mystic talent and more to do with doing the work. It is just that you really need some passion to do that. But it wouldn't be any easier for my easy child to explain to him that difference between him and his brother was made on those nights when they were around ten and stayed out playing after practices and it started to rain and getting cold and their favourite show was in tv and easy child came inside to watch tv or play with friends and difficult child stayed out alone and continued until I had to go and get him because his bed time was soon.</p><p></p><p>easy child is one of those lucky ones who really won in gene lottery. He is good in almost anything. Many things come easy to him, especially the most important stuff like social skills, but also academics and sports.I'm sure he will be okay. And right now it is not needed to kill his sport dreams. He may still has a chance to make it to pros. And anyway he is doing everything he needs to be ready to other choices if it does not work out. When difficult child was younger and choosing the type of High School we made rules abut this. If kids keep their grades in good level, we support their sport. They can take extra year in High School to accommodate their sport. And if they are good enough to have a chance, we finance them one gap year after High School and military duty to try to make it on their sport. After that they are either back to school or have to be able to live from their sport. That will be a deal also with easy child. Even if he doesn't make pro, he will get many good experiences and connections out of it that may well help him later in his career, whatever it is. So we see it kind of win-win situation for him. The league that difficult child currently plays has an average salary that is about the same than average engineering salaries and they are good at helping their players to go to college also during their career or right after it, so if easy child makes it that far, it would be a very sweet deal. And really if not, he has not lost anything when it comes to his future career in something else. </p><p></p><p>While difficult child may have more raw talent and raw intelligence, for him life has always been obstacle course with biggest blocks in places he has least natural talent. I do hope that I would be able to teach easy child to be more compassionate with both his brother and those others, who are not as lucky as he is, when it comes especially social talent (that I consider to be most important area of talent when it comes to happy life.)</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 538903, member: 14557"] Yes talents are not fair. Same goes to sport, music and academics. Though it has also a lot to do with working hard and passion. They said that you need 10 000 hours of practice to really master something. And it has less to do some mystic talent and more to do with doing the work. It is just that you really need some passion to do that. But it wouldn't be any easier for my easy child to explain to him that difference between him and his brother was made on those nights when they were around ten and stayed out playing after practices and it started to rain and getting cold and their favourite show was in tv and easy child came inside to watch tv or play with friends and difficult child stayed out alone and continued until I had to go and get him because his bed time was soon. easy child is one of those lucky ones who really won in gene lottery. He is good in almost anything. Many things come easy to him, especially the most important stuff like social skills, but also academics and sports.I'm sure he will be okay. And right now it is not needed to kill his sport dreams. He may still has a chance to make it to pros. And anyway he is doing everything he needs to be ready to other choices if it does not work out. When difficult child was younger and choosing the type of High School we made rules abut this. If kids keep their grades in good level, we support their sport. They can take extra year in High School to accommodate their sport. And if they are good enough to have a chance, we finance them one gap year after High School and military duty to try to make it on their sport. After that they are either back to school or have to be able to live from their sport. That will be a deal also with easy child. Even if he doesn't make pro, he will get many good experiences and connections out of it that may well help him later in his career, whatever it is. So we see it kind of win-win situation for him. The league that difficult child currently plays has an average salary that is about the same than average engineering salaries and they are good at helping their players to go to college also during their career or right after it, so if easy child makes it that far, it would be a very sweet deal. And really if not, he has not lost anything when it comes to his future career in something else. While difficult child may have more raw talent and raw intelligence, for him life has always been obstacle course with biggest blocks in places he has least natural talent. I do hope that I would be able to teach easy child to be more compassionate with both his brother and those others, who are not as lucky as he is, when it comes especially social talent (that I consider to be most important area of talent when it comes to happy life.) [/QUOTE]
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