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<blockquote data-quote="Peaceful" data-source="post: 114258" data-attributes="member: 4459"><p>Nancy, I'm sorry to hear about all you've been through. I know many parents in the same boat. You're doing the best you can with what you have.</p><p></p><p>All I can say at this point is you are wrong on your interpretations of what you're reading. It may be that I'm not communicating clearly. It may be that it's not being read as it's meant. I really don't know. It may be you're not really where we are as you don't have a younger one at risk as well as yourself which changes the entire equation and CPS letting you know they'll be removed is safety isn't maintained. I would not handle the situations you shared in the way you say you did. But my fondest wish is that it did work for her in whatever way you wanted it to. </p><p></p><p>The bottom line is tone can't possibly be "heard" on an email, or in any written form. </p><p></p><p>Her therapist is awesome. She has done everything, as we have, to keep her home. So has her doctor. I'm not sure why the magistrate set up the no swearing thing. I have a feeling it's something they'll find hard to enforce, if they can. We had three solid years of stability. Most never see this. That's no fits, no tantrums, succeeding at school, at sports and at socializing. No backtalk, no fighting, no disrespect. What does this tell us? She can do it. She's back on the medications she was on when this happened so we should see some progress soon I'm hoping.</p><p></p><p>I run a support group for caregivers of those with mental illness. I know it can be difficult to always truly understand what they're going through and I must respect their choices because they live in their homes. Not me. </p><p></p><p>It is the safe way or the highway here. Yes. I think I've made that clear in my postings. No one is going to fear for their life in our household if it's preventable. </p><p></p><p>Why in the world would any parent want thir child to misbehave? </p><p>Why would any parent not try absolutely everything to help their child to keep them home? </p><p></p><p>We were told to call the PO when she broke a condition of probation and leave a message outside of normal hours for her so that she has it when she returns to the office. I don't know why they want that but they do and I gave my word (as did my husband) that we would. We try every thing to get her to calm down and succeed to the point of not making her bath, brush her teeth or come out of her room to name a few (if that's what she says she wants). </p><p></p><p>I guess I'm so grateful for those of you who have offered your experience, strength and hope to me. I really appreciate thsoe of you who've sent me private notes telling me not to get discouraged by the negativity I've received here as well. It was kind of you. </p><p></p><p>I guess this site isn't for us after all. God has been good to us and given us much support in our families, friends and professionals in our lives. I will take what's been shared here and apply it if it fits and leave the rest as it lays. I hope everyone has success with their difficult children and treatment options for their kids.</p><p></p><p>Peaceful</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Peaceful, post: 114258, member: 4459"] Nancy, I'm sorry to hear about all you've been through. I know many parents in the same boat. You're doing the best you can with what you have. All I can say at this point is you are wrong on your interpretations of what you're reading. It may be that I'm not communicating clearly. It may be that it's not being read as it's meant. I really don't know. It may be you're not really where we are as you don't have a younger one at risk as well as yourself which changes the entire equation and CPS letting you know they'll be removed is safety isn't maintained. I would not handle the situations you shared in the way you say you did. But my fondest wish is that it did work for her in whatever way you wanted it to. The bottom line is tone can't possibly be "heard" on an email, or in any written form. Her therapist is awesome. She has done everything, as we have, to keep her home. So has her doctor. I'm not sure why the magistrate set up the no swearing thing. I have a feeling it's something they'll find hard to enforce, if they can. We had three solid years of stability. Most never see this. That's no fits, no tantrums, succeeding at school, at sports and at socializing. No backtalk, no fighting, no disrespect. What does this tell us? She can do it. She's back on the medications she was on when this happened so we should see some progress soon I'm hoping. I run a support group for caregivers of those with mental illness. I know it can be difficult to always truly understand what they're going through and I must respect their choices because they live in their homes. Not me. It is the safe way or the highway here. Yes. I think I've made that clear in my postings. No one is going to fear for their life in our household if it's preventable. Why in the world would any parent want thir child to misbehave? Why would any parent not try absolutely everything to help their child to keep them home? We were told to call the PO when she broke a condition of probation and leave a message outside of normal hours for her so that she has it when she returns to the office. I don't know why they want that but they do and I gave my word (as did my husband) that we would. We try every thing to get her to calm down and succeed to the point of not making her bath, brush her teeth or come out of her room to name a few (if that's what she says she wants). I guess I'm so grateful for those of you who have offered your experience, strength and hope to me. I really appreciate thsoe of you who've sent me private notes telling me not to get discouraged by the negativity I've received here as well. It was kind of you. I guess this site isn't for us after all. God has been good to us and given us much support in our families, friends and professionals in our lives. I will take what's been shared here and apply it if it fits and leave the rest as it lays. I hope everyone has success with their difficult children and treatment options for their kids. Peaceful [/QUOTE]
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