I tried (looses count on fingers) so many therapists before I found the one that I clicked with====and it only took about a month of meetings to say "I'm not for you, no offense, but I need what works for me. You have what works for you- mentally depressed people with checks paid to you.....I need what works for me....someone that I feel is GENUINELY interested in helpoing me save my life. Because after all - if you don't have good mental health? You really need to work towards a goal that makes you AT LEAST feel better, or feel something/
As far as work? Well I wish I could say "Oh aren't the people you work with so nice?" Truth is.....and it's just my opinion from working so many different jobs, with so many types of people.....While they SAY "OH so and so is sad." What they mean is - "She's a real bummer, or I am telling on 'Star" so that YOU notice she's sad which = lack of drive and job performance """"CAN I HAVE HER JOB SINCE SHE's going to leave?""""" The people that care about YOU Cali? Will ASK ......YOU not, tell your boss "Gosh she looks so sad, so down, is there something wrong?" Granted a day or two out of character may raise some eyebrows.......but I have yet to go to a manager and REPORT someone because I thought they were sad. So be careful about saying anything to anyone....about anything you work with. If someone is after your job? They just may be working an angle.
If work is your energizer and you're not energized there? Then get the help you know you need, and dump the EEYORE routine at work. I know this is not what you are doing - but I've known a LOT of women that peeve other women off because they bring home to work....and are "SO SAD"....like I said the ones I've ever noticed that I cared about? I asked them directly - or just tried to do nice little things to cheer them-----I certainly didn't go to the boss and say HEY LOOK AT OLD BASSET EYES....Unless the rest of that statement was followed by - "CAN WE HAVE A MORALE party?" And cheer EVERYONE up. The reason being is the people that went to work and brought their problems with them? Really were NOT on top, being professional, doing their best no matter what they thought. And that equates to EVERYONE else including me....doing someone elses work because they aren't pulling their weight (see where I'm going with this?)
I'm not talking about walking in everyday and being a little puky ray of sunshine. Just be careful. If they're noticing it? It's not to uplift you----it's to complain.
Hang in there and find that man you like to talk to-----no big deal if you don't like women therapists - I didn't either. I don't trust women.....WHY would I want to spend money talking to one? I don't trust men either - but we cliqued a lot better for talking. IT's just a choice ----no rhyme or reason. So go find your good new therapist and tell Eeyore to go play in the 100 acre woods.
Hugs & Love
Star