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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 596209" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Ok, you got two great responses. But being gifted is not on the spectrum most of the time. I have two twin nieces who are very gifted. They both got both academic and sports scholarships to college and had straight A averages in high school and both are also doing very well in college and have lofty goals, which I'm sure they will achieve. They are not on the spectrum and have a variety of interests and lots of friends, both of them.</p><p></p><p>Perfectionism in one area only is sort of spectrumy because spectrum kids tend not to have a lot of interests or friends. They obsess over one thing, not expanding their horizons like these two girls are doing. I believe your son's obessive perfectionism IS part of the Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD). Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) kids tend to obsess and get very upset with mistakes and are often excessively good in one area, but they tend not to be well rounded and struggle socially. And they are tantrum throwers, which most kids outgrow very young, if they tantrum at all (not all kids do). If your son is good in other areas too, he is not on the spectrum. You are actually lucky. Most spectrum kids do not excel in anything that is useful. My son excels in videogames and it isn't going to help him in the job market...lol. Your son may grow up to be a musician in a prestigious orchestra <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> It's a good thing.</p><p></p><p>I would not stop his lessons, and when he gets upset, being that he has High-Functioning Autism (HFA), you may have to go to him and remind him of how to calm himself down. This may help him calm down faster and eventually teach him how to get to that calmer place on his own. This is a very special boy and since most ASDers improve with time and interventions, I suspect he'll be a very successful young man. His quick mind will help him very much in life!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 596209, member: 1550"] Ok, you got two great responses. But being gifted is not on the spectrum most of the time. I have two twin nieces who are very gifted. They both got both academic and sports scholarships to college and had straight A averages in high school and both are also doing very well in college and have lofty goals, which I'm sure they will achieve. They are not on the spectrum and have a variety of interests and lots of friends, both of them. Perfectionism in one area only is sort of spectrumy because spectrum kids tend not to have a lot of interests or friends. They obsess over one thing, not expanding their horizons like these two girls are doing. I believe your son's obessive perfectionism IS part of the Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD). Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) kids tend to obsess and get very upset with mistakes and are often excessively good in one area, but they tend not to be well rounded and struggle socially. And they are tantrum throwers, which most kids outgrow very young, if they tantrum at all (not all kids do). If your son is good in other areas too, he is not on the spectrum. You are actually lucky. Most spectrum kids do not excel in anything that is useful. My son excels in videogames and it isn't going to help him in the job market...lol. Your son may grow up to be a musician in a prestigious orchestra :) It's a good thing. I would not stop his lessons, and when he gets upset, being that he has High-Functioning Autism (HFA), you may have to go to him and remind him of how to calm himself down. This may help him calm down faster and eventually teach him how to get to that calmer place on his own. This is a very special boy and since most ASDers improve with time and interventions, I suspect he'll be a very successful young man. His quick mind will help him very much in life! [/QUOTE]
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