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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 620597" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Thanks Cedar. You are a kind soul.</p><p></p><p>Perhaps I look at growth in a more clinical way..........could be the 22 years of therapy I've had! (yikes) I didn't think I was harshly judging myself, I felt I had uncovered a truth which needed the light of day to grow.........Even though that doesn't always feel so good to realize, the results are usually more of a sense of freedom and wholeness.</p><p></p><p>The therapist in that codependency course I took told us that codependents/enablers were the kindest, most soft hearted and loving folks around...............<em>AND</em>, along with that, there was a fear based component, the part learned in a dysfunctional system, the part that the ego corrupted.............that's the part I wanted to heal from. I do believe I am a kind, soft hearted, loving person............the distinction being that there were just some parts that didn't work for me, <em>the enabling.</em></p><p></p><p> As the fear subsides, that enabling persona has been dying, replaced by a more vulnerable, softer, more loving person which feels better and fits me. </p><p></p><p>My intention was always good Cedar and that is very important, I never intended to do harm, I just didn't know any better. That distinction is not lost on me. </p><p></p><p>And, yes, you and I changed the format of our parental conditioning...........that was my goal, to not pass the insanity on and to that end, these changes with my granddaughter are necessary and timely. Seems like I got it together in the 11th hour to make sure she got the best shot out of the gate!!</p><p></p><p>It is a miracle Cedar, I completely agree. There are days I just can't even believe how many changes have happened, how much we humans can transform ourselves, how different I feel and how much happier and peaceful I am. We are remarkable creatures with an amazing capacity for courage, for growth, for love. </p><p></p><p>It's good to have company on this journey of self discovery...........thanks for riding along Cedar.................<em>good thing we're wearing our seat belts! </em></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 620597, member: 13542"] Thanks Cedar. You are a kind soul. Perhaps I look at growth in a more clinical way..........could be the 22 years of therapy I've had! (yikes) I didn't think I was harshly judging myself, I felt I had uncovered a truth which needed the light of day to grow.........Even though that doesn't always feel so good to realize, the results are usually more of a sense of freedom and wholeness. The therapist in that codependency course I took told us that codependents/enablers were the kindest, most soft hearted and loving folks around...............[I]AND[/I], along with that, there was a fear based component, the part learned in a dysfunctional system, the part that the ego corrupted.............that's the part I wanted to heal from. I do believe I am a kind, soft hearted, loving person............the distinction being that there were just some parts that didn't work for me, [I]the enabling.[/I] As the fear subsides, that enabling persona has been dying, replaced by a more vulnerable, softer, more loving person which feels better and fits me. My intention was always good Cedar and that is very important, I never intended to do harm, I just didn't know any better. That distinction is not lost on me. And, yes, you and I changed the format of our parental conditioning...........that was my goal, to not pass the insanity on and to that end, these changes with my granddaughter are necessary and timely. Seems like I got it together in the 11th hour to make sure she got the best shot out of the gate!! It is a miracle Cedar, I completely agree. There are days I just can't even believe how many changes have happened, how much we humans can transform ourselves, how different I feel and how much happier and peaceful I am. We are remarkable creatures with an amazing capacity for courage, for growth, for love. It's good to have company on this journey of self discovery...........thanks for riding along Cedar.................[I]good thing we're wearing our seat belts! [/I] [/QUOTE]
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