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<blockquote data-quote="mstang67chic" data-source="post: 276475" data-attributes="member: 2459"><p>First of all....HUGS. It's bad enough having a child in the house that acts like this. I can't imagine being married to one.</p><p></p><p>As for your moral code....I can understand that. I've got my own set and can relate. However, as others have said, you kept up your end of the vow, he didn't. While I know it goes deeper than this, think of it as a business partnership. You make a contract and expect the other person to hold up their end of things. When they don't, there isn't any reason to keep the contract. It's not like you're talking about an isolated incident or two. You've been dealing with this for YEARS. Again, not on the same level but if this were your H's job, he would have been fired years ago. If this was a paying border, he would have been booted out. </p><p></p><p>While I believe in divorce, I don't take it lightly. I've seen too many people either go into a marriage with the attitude that "eh...if it doesn't go like I want it to, we can just get a divorce" or get a divorce without even TRYING to make things work. This is definately not the case here. You have tried and tried and it has not worked. NOT because of any failings on your part but because you are in a partnership and the partner is putting no effort into it. You've done all you can and you can't make someone do things if they don't want to. You have a difficult child, you know this concept. Granted, I'm sure you didn't expect to apply it to a marriage but it's the same concept.</p><p></p><p>At this point, you need to do what you need to do for YOU. Also, I didn't look at the links that Janet put up but you may want to consider consulting with a lawyer about the legal seperation. I only say this because I know that Ohio has one or two (coughcough) weird laws and you need to protect yourself.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="mstang67chic, post: 276475, member: 2459"] First of all....HUGS. It's bad enough having a child in the house that acts like this. I can't imagine being married to one. As for your moral code....I can understand that. I've got my own set and can relate. However, as others have said, you kept up your end of the vow, he didn't. While I know it goes deeper than this, think of it as a business partnership. You make a contract and expect the other person to hold up their end of things. When they don't, there isn't any reason to keep the contract. It's not like you're talking about an isolated incident or two. You've been dealing with this for YEARS. Again, not on the same level but if this were your H's job, he would have been fired years ago. If this was a paying border, he would have been booted out. While I believe in divorce, I don't take it lightly. I've seen too many people either go into a marriage with the attitude that "eh...if it doesn't go like I want it to, we can just get a divorce" or get a divorce without even TRYING to make things work. This is definately not the case here. You have tried and tried and it has not worked. NOT because of any failings on your part but because you are in a partnership and the partner is putting no effort into it. You've done all you can and you can't make someone do things if they don't want to. You have a difficult child, you know this concept. Granted, I'm sure you didn't expect to apply it to a marriage but it's the same concept. At this point, you need to do what you need to do for YOU. Also, I didn't look at the links that Janet put up but you may want to consider consulting with a lawyer about the legal seperation. I only say this because I know that Ohio has one or two (coughcough) weird laws and you need to protect yourself. [/QUOTE]
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