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<blockquote data-quote="ellenr1" data-source="post: 17268" data-attributes="member: 2547"><p>It's exhausting, physically, mentally, emotionally, trying to figure out what is the right thing to do by your difficult child, and then doing it consistently.</p><p></p><p>Sounds like you ended the day on a much more positive note.</p><p></p><p>My 14 yr old son is diagnosis'd ODD, which a lot of therapists/psychiatrists think is a "bogus" diagnosis by itself (pretty much the prevailing wisdom here are well). My kid has anxiety, mostly separation anxiety, which has manifested itself as aggressive behavior towards me and sometimes his sisters; lately he won't touch me but he will smash pictures, key my car, etc. And curse at me. And insult my cooking, housekeeping skills, you name it. I ignore it. I never look sad or upset when he does this because I know he doesn't mean it, he's just so desperately unhappy he doesn't know what else to do. </p><p></p><p>My two oldest kids are champions at manipulating their dad and I, who are in teh midst of a contested custody situation and have been divorcing for almost three years now. His dad is obnoxiously passive-aggressive and it trying to wear me down so I get almost nothing, but he doesn't acknowledge how this affects the children.</p><p></p><p>by the way, I chuckled when I read the part about your daughter acting the therapist/social worker with your son. She is precious! My youngest is 10 and she went to the social worker at her elementary school to come up with a list of "coping skills" for dealing with her brother, had them written down as notes and checked each one off as she did them, with a comment on how it worked or didn't work. She's a pistol and I love her so much it hurts. That's the worst part, how the other kids suffer when their sibling is out of control.</p><p></p><p>Keep reading and writing back here. I have gotten so much help and support over the past year, and it is such a relief to communicate with others who have been in your shoes and who are not judgemental about your parenting.</p><p></p><p>Sending you hugs and best wishes for a better day today.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ellenr1, post: 17268, member: 2547"] It's exhausting, physically, mentally, emotionally, trying to figure out what is the right thing to do by your difficult child, and then doing it consistently. Sounds like you ended the day on a much more positive note. My 14 yr old son is diagnosis'd ODD, which a lot of therapists/psychiatrists think is a "bogus" diagnosis by itself (pretty much the prevailing wisdom here are well). My kid has anxiety, mostly separation anxiety, which has manifested itself as aggressive behavior towards me and sometimes his sisters; lately he won't touch me but he will smash pictures, key my car, etc. And curse at me. And insult my cooking, housekeeping skills, you name it. I ignore it. I never look sad or upset when he does this because I know he doesn't mean it, he's just so desperately unhappy he doesn't know what else to do. My two oldest kids are champions at manipulating their dad and I, who are in teh midst of a contested custody situation and have been divorcing for almost three years now. His dad is obnoxiously passive-aggressive and it trying to wear me down so I get almost nothing, but he doesn't acknowledge how this affects the children. by the way, I chuckled when I read the part about your daughter acting the therapist/social worker with your son. She is precious! My youngest is 10 and she went to the social worker at her elementary school to come up with a list of "coping skills" for dealing with her brother, had them written down as notes and checked each one off as she did them, with a comment on how it worked or didn't work. She's a pistol and I love her so much it hurts. That's the worst part, how the other kids suffer when their sibling is out of control. Keep reading and writing back here. I have gotten so much help and support over the past year, and it is such a relief to communicate with others who have been in your shoes and who are not judgemental about your parenting. Sending you hugs and best wishes for a better day today. [/QUOTE]
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