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<blockquote data-quote="Nancy" data-source="post: 677025" data-attributes="member: 59"><p>HI rebelson and welcome. Thank you for the background, it helps. There were many times that my daughter said much of the same to me and my husband, she hated us, had a horrible childhood, only feels like herself when she is drinking, I was a horrible mom for calling police on her, what kind of parents would file charges and kick their own daughter out, etc. The bottom line is we could no longer take her abusing both herself and us and we did what we did to try to help her. She was in a hospital rehab for two months and lived in a sober house for 6 months. We could not let her come back home, she had to make it on her own.</p><p></p><p>Your son is an adult now so whatever wrongs he perceived you have done to him it is now his responsibility to help himself. As parents we can help our kids as long as they are taking steps to help themselves. This may sound very harsh but you cannot help him anymore. He needs drug treatment and to stop blaming everyone else for his problems. You know it is the drugs talking when he calls you. </p><p></p><p>We had to hold our line with our daughter and explain what we were willing to help with and what we were not. A good place to start is to explain to him that until he gets help for his drug problems there is nothing more you can do for him, and stick to it. Don't answer his calls. I know it's hard, we would get the voice mails that she was going to kill herself, but she didn't thank goodness and she did manage to decide she no longer wanted to live like she was.</p><p></p><p>I know you are scared. You need to find a support group to help you through that. Families Anonymous was a great support for us, the families we met there were all going through similar situations and we learned a lot. Many people are helped by alanon, I went to many meetings and it all helped to make me strong and stop enabling our daughter.</p><p></p><p>Your son is abusing you, that needs to stop. I would make it clear to him that you will not listen to any of his rants anymore. We have all had to learn how to go on with our lives and not be consumed by our loved ones sickness. I hope you can do the same.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nancy, post: 677025, member: 59"] HI rebelson and welcome. Thank you for the background, it helps. There were many times that my daughter said much of the same to me and my husband, she hated us, had a horrible childhood, only feels like herself when she is drinking, I was a horrible mom for calling police on her, what kind of parents would file charges and kick their own daughter out, etc. The bottom line is we could no longer take her abusing both herself and us and we did what we did to try to help her. She was in a hospital rehab for two months and lived in a sober house for 6 months. We could not let her come back home, she had to make it on her own. Your son is an adult now so whatever wrongs he perceived you have done to him it is now his responsibility to help himself. As parents we can help our kids as long as they are taking steps to help themselves. This may sound very harsh but you cannot help him anymore. He needs drug treatment and to stop blaming everyone else for his problems. You know it is the drugs talking when he calls you. We had to hold our line with our daughter and explain what we were willing to help with and what we were not. A good place to start is to explain to him that until he gets help for his drug problems there is nothing more you can do for him, and stick to it. Don't answer his calls. I know it's hard, we would get the voice mails that she was going to kill herself, but she didn't thank goodness and she did manage to decide she no longer wanted to live like she was. I know you are scared. You need to find a support group to help you through that. Families Anonymous was a great support for us, the families we met there were all going through similar situations and we learned a lot. Many people are helped by alanon, I went to many meetings and it all helped to make me strong and stop enabling our daughter. Your son is abusing you, that needs to stop. I would make it clear to him that you will not listen to any of his rants anymore. We have all had to learn how to go on with our lives and not be consumed by our loved ones sickness. I hope you can do the same. [/QUOTE]
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