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<blockquote data-quote="Ironbutterfly" data-source="post: 677066" data-attributes="member: 19951"><p>When I see the list of all the things he "says" all I see is excuses and blaming others. There are so many people in the world that have worse lives and somehow they end up with good lives. I had a horrific childhood and somehow I have managed to have a very good life. He is an alcoholic and has some mental issues. He needs to admit that and HE needs to make the changes in his life and stop using excuses. </p><p></p><p>I had to recently let go of my son who has mental issues, did drugs, homeless off and on- this has been going on for years. I finally came to the realization that I was not helping him- I was keeping him from helping himself. I had a line in the sand and he crossed it- I had enough so I did what I had to do and walk away. I gave him to the Lord who has someone protected him and kept him alive for so many years when he should of been dead. </p><p></p><p>Detach- read the document here. Print it out- read it every night. Keep conversations simple, when he starts drama talking, blame talking, hang up. When he tells you to listen to voicemail again, don't do it. Don't answer phone for a few days. When he calls with a problem he needs help with like housing, money, etc. Just be supportive and say I am confident you will figure this out on your own- say I love and hang up. </p><p></p><p>Yes in letting go we take a chance that something could happen to them- but that is because of the decisions they continue to make. It's their life. </p><p></p><p>Let go, let God take the wheel. Take your life back.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Ironbutterfly, post: 677066, member: 19951"] When I see the list of all the things he "says" all I see is excuses and blaming others. There are so many people in the world that have worse lives and somehow they end up with good lives. I had a horrific childhood and somehow I have managed to have a very good life. He is an alcoholic and has some mental issues. He needs to admit that and HE needs to make the changes in his life and stop using excuses. I had to recently let go of my son who has mental issues, did drugs, homeless off and on- this has been going on for years. I finally came to the realization that I was not helping him- I was keeping him from helping himself. I had a line in the sand and he crossed it- I had enough so I did what I had to do and walk away. I gave him to the Lord who has someone protected him and kept him alive for so many years when he should of been dead. Detach- read the document here. Print it out- read it every night. Keep conversations simple, when he starts drama talking, blame talking, hang up. When he tells you to listen to voicemail again, don't do it. Don't answer phone for a few days. When he calls with a problem he needs help with like housing, money, etc. Just be supportive and say I am confident you will figure this out on your own- say I love and hang up. Yes in letting go we take a chance that something could happen to them- but that is because of the decisions they continue to make. It's their life. Let go, let God take the wheel. Take your life back. [/QUOTE]
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