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<blockquote data-quote="InsaneCdn" data-source="post: 677090" data-attributes="member: 11791"><p>How often has he called you when he is "being suicidal"? What is his pattern?</p><p> </p><p>If he has never done this, then the chances of him calling if he were indeed suicidal, are remote. If he does this regularly and does not have an active plan, then he is not actively suicidal, which means there is time.</p><p> </p><p>If he consistently calls you because he is actively suicidal, and you consistently talk him down, then you need to put him in touch with other resources that can be there for him when you cannot. What would happen if... YOU got run over by a bus and were in the hospital in ICU and couldn't take his call? There are lots of possibilities. It is vital that we get our adult kids in contact with appropriate long-term resources. It's up to them whether they use those resources or not, but...</p><p> </p><p>I know what it's like to have an actively suicidal relative, and be the one doing the talk-down on a regular basis. I'm finding ways to transition that, because it's going to be a long term risk. And this is a person who <em>does NOT call me being suicidal in the middle of the night.</em> It builds, the person knows it's building, and the calls come somewhere between mid-morning and early evening. AND this is a basically respectful person who isn't highly manipulative. In other words... I am able to be there for this person. But it is still important to transition to more permanent solutions. <em>In case I get run over by a bus...</em></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="InsaneCdn, post: 677090, member: 11791"] How often has he called you when he is "being suicidal"? What is his pattern? If he has never done this, then the chances of him calling if he were indeed suicidal, are remote. If he does this regularly and does not have an active plan, then he is not actively suicidal, which means there is time. If he consistently calls you because he is actively suicidal, and you consistently talk him down, then you need to put him in touch with other resources that can be there for him when you cannot. What would happen if... YOU got run over by a bus and were in the hospital in ICU and couldn't take his call? There are lots of possibilities. It is vital that we get our adult kids in contact with appropriate long-term resources. It's up to them whether they use those resources or not, but... I know what it's like to have an actively suicidal relative, and be the one doing the talk-down on a regular basis. I'm finding ways to transition that, because it's going to be a long term risk. And this is a person who [I]does NOT call me being suicidal in the middle of the night.[/I] It builds, the person knows it's building, and the calls come somewhere between mid-morning and early evening. AND this is a basically respectful person who isn't highly manipulative. In other words... I am able to be there for this person. But it is still important to transition to more permanent solutions. [I]In case I get run over by a bus...[/I] [/QUOTE]
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