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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 677109" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Seagenie, it is time to live for yourself.</p><p></p><p>Let him be. It really has nothing to do with you. </p><p></p><p>It is very hard for sons of single mother's to break away. They have to hate us in order to leave us. That is the only way they can bear it. </p><p></p><p>Trust me. He will come back. But it will have to be on your terms. Which is good for you and good for him. </p><p></p><p>Our sons cannot be allowed to trash us. Because by doing so, they are really trashing themselves. </p><p></p><p>Have hope. You have worked hard for so long. Try to do whatever you can do to make life sweet for yourself. There are other single mothers who post on this site. </p><p></p><p>Keep posting. As if your life depends upon it. I found my life changed substantially by posting. Even if you believe the threads do not pertain to you or you feel you cannot relate much, it still helps to post. </p><p></p><p>Take care.</p><p></p><p>COPA</p><p></p><p>PS Do not believe please that your son hates you and that he has found "new family." That happened with my son too. For more than two years friends of mine took him and asked nothing of him. I was humiliated and felt rejected. Before that he turned my neighbors against me and I was the subject of their gossip. I was in agony. I should not have been. I should have ignored it and gone my merry way. </p><p></p><p>Every single person eventually kicked my son out and told him to not come back. </p><p>There are people who seem to enjoy showing one up. In the long run it was my son who suffered. </p><p></p><p>Our sons love us. Probably too much. They have to be men. If they have to throw us over to do it, so be it. You are doing the right thing. That is what I think.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 677109, member: 18958"] Seagenie, it is time to live for yourself. Let him be. It really has nothing to do with you. It is very hard for sons of single mother's to break away. They have to hate us in order to leave us. That is the only way they can bear it. Trust me. He will come back. But it will have to be on your terms. Which is good for you and good for him. Our sons cannot be allowed to trash us. Because by doing so, they are really trashing themselves. Have hope. You have worked hard for so long. Try to do whatever you can do to make life sweet for yourself. There are other single mothers who post on this site. Keep posting. As if your life depends upon it. I found my life changed substantially by posting. Even if you believe the threads do not pertain to you or you feel you cannot relate much, it still helps to post. Take care. COPA PS Do not believe please that your son hates you and that he has found "new family." That happened with my son too. For more than two years friends of mine took him and asked nothing of him. I was humiliated and felt rejected. Before that he turned my neighbors against me and I was the subject of their gossip. I was in agony. I should not have been. I should have ignored it and gone my merry way. Every single person eventually kicked my son out and told him to not come back. There are people who seem to enjoy showing one up. In the long run it was my son who suffered. Our sons love us. Probably too much. They have to be men. If they have to throw us over to do it, so be it. You are doing the right thing. That is what I think. [/QUOTE]
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