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Pfffftttt....well so much for family therapy
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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 315698" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>Yeah, I'm thinking of asking her to put these suggestions in writing and if GAL and PO sign off on them, as in I am not held legally and financially responsible, then maybe I will consider it. Keep in mind- when my son chose to get up during the night and look up porn on the computer, that was my fault for not screening his actions enough and I had to remove the computer from the house.</p><p></p><p>therapist actually told difficult child "you do understand about PO saying you need to be on house arrest for a while, don't you?" Well, if PO thinks he needs to be on house arrest for a while upon his release, then why exactly am I too strict or unreasonable for thinking he doesn't go straight from that to being able to do whatever he wants? So, the only authority he needs is parole? I guess they only want me involved to provide difficult child a place to live, clothes, and food. Oh- and pay restitution and transport him to all required appts.</p><p></p><p>Truthfully, I wouldn't be surprised if something went to Department of Juvenile Justice from probation in difficult child's file along the lines of them thinking difficult child's problems were due to me being so strict. I know the probation officer thought I should let difficult child play violent games and not worry about it and GAL blamed me for all difficult child's problems- which she ggot from my bro- then told difficult child it was my fault he was committed to Department of Juvenile Justice. I know for sure that the probation officer sends files and comments to Department of Juvenile Justice when a kid is committed but I'm not sure about the GAL. Anyway, that would explain the therapist's position.</p><p></p><p>Things aren't looking good right now re. difficult child's release and where he'll be going. therapist said she was going to email difficult child's CM and asked her to call me about the release date- she said that at the beginning, before all this other stuff was said, but it looks to me now that the CM had been waiting to get back with me to see what therapist recommended. What really bugs me is that the family therapy wasn't supposed to be "negotiating the terms of behavior and expectations for when difficult child comes home" to begin with.</p><p></p><p>You know, we've been thru so much therapy it's too predicatble now. First, the issue was day care, then allowance, then what I cooked for diinner, now privileges with friends. Each and every time, some stupid therapist acts like they think if I agree to change those things, difficult child won't break the law anymore. These are typical issues- it is not typical, however, for a kid to break the law over them and when tdocs try to "negotiate" these things, I honestly think it just confirms to the kid that it is justifiable to break the law over them.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 315698, member: 3699"] Yeah, I'm thinking of asking her to put these suggestions in writing and if GAL and PO sign off on them, as in I am not held legally and financially responsible, then maybe I will consider it. Keep in mind- when my son chose to get up during the night and look up porn on the computer, that was my fault for not screening his actions enough and I had to remove the computer from the house. therapist actually told difficult child "you do understand about PO saying you need to be on house arrest for a while, don't you?" Well, if PO thinks he needs to be on house arrest for a while upon his release, then why exactly am I too strict or unreasonable for thinking he doesn't go straight from that to being able to do whatever he wants? So, the only authority he needs is parole? I guess they only want me involved to provide difficult child a place to live, clothes, and food. Oh- and pay restitution and transport him to all required appts. Truthfully, I wouldn't be surprised if something went to Department of Juvenile Justice from probation in difficult child's file along the lines of them thinking difficult child's problems were due to me being so strict. I know the probation officer thought I should let difficult child play violent games and not worry about it and GAL blamed me for all difficult child's problems- which she ggot from my bro- then told difficult child it was my fault he was committed to Department of Juvenile Justice. I know for sure that the probation officer sends files and comments to Department of Juvenile Justice when a kid is committed but I'm not sure about the GAL. Anyway, that would explain the therapist's position. Things aren't looking good right now re. difficult child's release and where he'll be going. therapist said she was going to email difficult child's CM and asked her to call me about the release date- she said that at the beginning, before all this other stuff was said, but it looks to me now that the CM had been waiting to get back with me to see what therapist recommended. What really bugs me is that the family therapy wasn't supposed to be "negotiating the terms of behavior and expectations for when difficult child comes home" to begin with. You know, we've been thru so much therapy it's too predicatble now. First, the issue was day care, then allowance, then what I cooked for diinner, now privileges with friends. Each and every time, some stupid therapist acts like they think if I agree to change those things, difficult child won't break the law anymore. These are typical issues- it is not typical, however, for a kid to break the law over them and when tdocs try to "negotiate" these things, I honestly think it just confirms to the kid that it is justifiable to break the law over them. [/QUOTE]
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