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<blockquote data-quote="Shari" data-source="post: 393751" data-attributes="member: 1848"><p>hi, gp.</p><p> </p><p>not sure if you are aware, but i'm pretty much in j's boat right now. i am laid up unable to use my left hand and right leg. i am limited to sitting where the leg can be elevated. it stinks.</p><p> </p><p>but that said, i wouldn't have been real happy if my family made a call like that. i have lots of friends who are helping us out, mostly right now by bringing in an evening meal. but i most certainly would not want any of them to jeopordize their own situations for mine. there is nothing wrong with cereal for supper...</p><p> </p><p>i think doing what you can for a friend in need is part of beig a friend. but part of that, also, is that its not a required duty...you do it because you want to help your friend and can...not because you are required. spouses take vows. not friends.</p><p> </p><p>I'd givde sis the benefit of the doubt. she had a bad day or something and didn't use good judgement.</p><p> </p><p>and from the point of view of the laid up, i can tell you having those evening meals brought in has been WONDERFUL. lots of them have been simple - chili or soup, but still, its a huge help. one friend spread the word that she was making a dinner schedule, and people just keep signing up to bring in a meal (people want to help but often don't know what to do) i had another friend jump in and help husband fill out ins forms - again, wonderful. and another friend popped in and took our laundry home and returned it washed and folded. she said she just washed it with her own, but its a huge task here that i'm not able to do and i really appreciated it.</p><p> </p><p>do what you can. i bet your friend won't be worried about what it is that you aren't doing....she'll be thankful for what you are.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Shari, post: 393751, member: 1848"] hi, gp. not sure if you are aware, but i'm pretty much in j's boat right now. i am laid up unable to use my left hand and right leg. i am limited to sitting where the leg can be elevated. it stinks. but that said, i wouldn't have been real happy if my family made a call like that. i have lots of friends who are helping us out, mostly right now by bringing in an evening meal. but i most certainly would not want any of them to jeopordize their own situations for mine. there is nothing wrong with cereal for supper... i think doing what you can for a friend in need is part of beig a friend. but part of that, also, is that its not a required duty...you do it because you want to help your friend and can...not because you are required. spouses take vows. not friends. I'd givde sis the benefit of the doubt. she had a bad day or something and didn't use good judgement. and from the point of view of the laid up, i can tell you having those evening meals brought in has been WONDERFUL. lots of them have been simple - chili or soup, but still, its a huge help. one friend spread the word that she was making a dinner schedule, and people just keep signing up to bring in a meal (people want to help but often don't know what to do) i had another friend jump in and help husband fill out ins forms - again, wonderful. and another friend popped in and took our laundry home and returned it washed and folded. she said she just washed it with her own, but its a huge task here that i'm not able to do and i really appreciated it. do what you can. i bet your friend won't be worried about what it is that you aren't doing....she'll be thankful for what you are. [/QUOTE]
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