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Nana's are Beautiful
Had some stuff to drop off at katie's.........so in true nana style, I waited until I knew it would be time for the kids to come home on the bus.......which would mean she'd definitely be home. lol
Katie seemed thrilled to see us. We brought the kids bikes over. (has been raining since she moved no reason before now) And I had an old crockpot and mother in law's toaster for her. I brought kayla the books I'd gotten her from GW, but left the leapster at home because I'd like to pick up some book sets for it before giving it to Evan. And I discovered Alex can use it too as it's got things on his level as well.
She asked if we wanted to walk with her to the bus stop to get the kids and I said sure. Brought back old memories from when we lived there. lol She was quite chatty and pleasant. The kids got there and alex nearly toppled me over with his enthusiastic greeting. lol (he always does) Then we stopped at the complex's nice playground area to let them play a bit.
She got the couch, 2 twin beds, tv and entertainment center, computer.......alex's teacher got him a playstation. (biting my tongue here, but the woman seriously adores the boy) Kayla got to keep the complete bedroom bedding set she'd been using from the shelter so her room is decked out in little mermaid. lol Apartment was clean.....teeny cluttered, no biggie.
Kids are adjusting well with no M........and are like ohhh 100 times calmer. Very nice visit. She did say she got the disability checks but can't cash them because she doesn't have an oh driver's license yet. She's waiting on a piece of mail to arrive so she can go switch it over. I hadn't even thought of that one........bet M is having the same issue. lol Today Alex's teacher sent home some pots and pans in his bookbag. So tonight katie can cook.
I'm trying hard to put on a new attitude here. It's not easy when I'm such an all out pessimist. But I'm trying. She's got all that is necessary to do well and move forward. The kids are obviously happy. So, I'll just be surrogate mom and Nana and leave the rest alone. I've got a nagging feeling, but I'm choosing to ignore it and give the girl a chance. It's not like I have any expectations.
But if I keep going around her with attitude (even trying to hide it) or avoiding her to make detachment easier......I'm not going to be very supportive of any change she may be considering.....or heck even making her feel like she's wanted. Not a very good message to send to your kid. With M not around.....visiting is soooooo much easier and nicer and talking so much more natural.
With M basically not in the picture there is a remote possibility some progress may be made. Remote, but it's there. The change in the kids is already noticeable. They don't even talk about their dad which is HUGE as it was non stop dad this and dad that before. Now I get to hear about their day and what they like and such.....even with katie.
So.........with detachment still firmly in place........I think I'll drop in to just visit on occasion. Maybe drop off nana finds. lol And snatch katie up for some yard sales. Sure we'd have to take Evan.....but he's the one I've noticed the most change in. Drastic. Still very much a difficult child. But wow. Affectionate, eager to please, some listening issues but that will take time.
And yeah, she may disappear tomorrow. But in the meantime, I think I'll just try to let myself enjoy them as much as I can for as long as I can. (cuz if M gets back into the picture all of this will stop, kids and katie will be back the way they were)
Also with no tv, no computer (well no internet), no phone cuz she's saving mins........she basically has no one to talk to at all. So no wonder she was glad to see me and encouraged us to stick around a while. Yup. That was her idea, not mine. We'd planned to drop the stuff off on the way to walmart and see what the kind people brought her, not really to sit and visit for more than an hour. lol
Katie seemed thrilled to see us. We brought the kids bikes over. (has been raining since she moved no reason before now) And I had an old crockpot and mother in law's toaster for her. I brought kayla the books I'd gotten her from GW, but left the leapster at home because I'd like to pick up some book sets for it before giving it to Evan. And I discovered Alex can use it too as it's got things on his level as well.
She asked if we wanted to walk with her to the bus stop to get the kids and I said sure. Brought back old memories from when we lived there. lol She was quite chatty and pleasant. The kids got there and alex nearly toppled me over with his enthusiastic greeting. lol (he always does) Then we stopped at the complex's nice playground area to let them play a bit.
She got the couch, 2 twin beds, tv and entertainment center, computer.......alex's teacher got him a playstation. (biting my tongue here, but the woman seriously adores the boy) Kayla got to keep the complete bedroom bedding set she'd been using from the shelter so her room is decked out in little mermaid. lol Apartment was clean.....teeny cluttered, no biggie.
Kids are adjusting well with no M........and are like ohhh 100 times calmer. Very nice visit. She did say she got the disability checks but can't cash them because she doesn't have an oh driver's license yet. She's waiting on a piece of mail to arrive so she can go switch it over. I hadn't even thought of that one........bet M is having the same issue. lol Today Alex's teacher sent home some pots and pans in his bookbag. So tonight katie can cook.
I'm trying hard to put on a new attitude here. It's not easy when I'm such an all out pessimist. But I'm trying. She's got all that is necessary to do well and move forward. The kids are obviously happy. So, I'll just be surrogate mom and Nana and leave the rest alone. I've got a nagging feeling, but I'm choosing to ignore it and give the girl a chance. It's not like I have any expectations.
But if I keep going around her with attitude (even trying to hide it) or avoiding her to make detachment easier......I'm not going to be very supportive of any change she may be considering.....or heck even making her feel like she's wanted. Not a very good message to send to your kid. With M not around.....visiting is soooooo much easier and nicer and talking so much more natural.
With M basically not in the picture there is a remote possibility some progress may be made. Remote, but it's there. The change in the kids is already noticeable. They don't even talk about their dad which is HUGE as it was non stop dad this and dad that before. Now I get to hear about their day and what they like and such.....even with katie.
So.........with detachment still firmly in place........I think I'll drop in to just visit on occasion. Maybe drop off nana finds. lol And snatch katie up for some yard sales. Sure we'd have to take Evan.....but he's the one I've noticed the most change in. Drastic. Still very much a difficult child. But wow. Affectionate, eager to please, some listening issues but that will take time.
And yeah, she may disappear tomorrow. But in the meantime, I think I'll just try to let myself enjoy them as much as I can for as long as I can. (cuz if M gets back into the picture all of this will stop, kids and katie will be back the way they were)
Also with no tv, no computer (well no internet), no phone cuz she's saving mins........she basically has no one to talk to at all. So no wonder she was glad to see me and encouraged us to stick around a while. Yup. That was her idea, not mine. We'd planned to drop the stuff off on the way to walmart and see what the kind people brought her, not really to sit and visit for more than an hour. lol