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Please Help, 25yo brother stealing from family
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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 544582" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>I'm sorry for the pain you're in. Perhaps you and your parents would benefit from attending a 12 step group for families of substance abusers. You can also research groups specifically for the families which may be lead by a therapist or another professional. Private therapy is an option too. If you believe your brother suffers from mental illness, the national organization NAMI, the National alliance for mental illness, is a great resource for families. They provide services to support the family and help with getting the family member with mental illness through the system. </p><p></p><p>The bottom line is you cannot change his behavior, what you all can do is change your reactions and responses and begin the process of letting him go, detaching from him so that his life cannot impact all of you. Being proactive and hiding your money and valuables seems to be what many choose to do in the process. Stealing is not okay and should not be tolerated. It is heartbreaking and it is not easy, however, as most of us here on this board can attest, in the final analysis, what is required is to find a way detach from him and learn to live your own lives. That path is fraught with pitfalls, sorrow, guilt, angers and resentments, however, it usually is the only way out of the dilemma you are facing. Again, I'm sorry you find yourself in this place, you're not alone, you've found a wonderful place to vent and get advice and express your frustrations. I'm sure there will be others along who will provide you with more support. I send you warm wishes as you find your way through this.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 544582, member: 13542"] I'm sorry for the pain you're in. Perhaps you and your parents would benefit from attending a 12 step group for families of substance abusers. You can also research groups specifically for the families which may be lead by a therapist or another professional. Private therapy is an option too. If you believe your brother suffers from mental illness, the national organization NAMI, the National alliance for mental illness, is a great resource for families. They provide services to support the family and help with getting the family member with mental illness through the system. The bottom line is you cannot change his behavior, what you all can do is change your reactions and responses and begin the process of letting him go, detaching from him so that his life cannot impact all of you. Being proactive and hiding your money and valuables seems to be what many choose to do in the process. Stealing is not okay and should not be tolerated. It is heartbreaking and it is not easy, however, as most of us here on this board can attest, in the final analysis, what is required is to find a way detach from him and learn to live your own lives. That path is fraught with pitfalls, sorrow, guilt, angers and resentments, however, it usually is the only way out of the dilemma you are facing. Again, I'm sorry you find yourself in this place, you're not alone, you've found a wonderful place to vent and get advice and express your frustrations. I'm sure there will be others along who will provide you with more support. I send you warm wishes as you find your way through this. [/QUOTE]
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