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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 714488" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>You are right, it's always easier said than done when it comes to dealing with our difficult adult children.</p><p></p><p>I do agree with the others that have suggested that he not live with you. Here's the thing, by you allowing him to continue to live with you and allowing him to get away with his rages to the point he's damaging your home, why would he want to leave. He's 28, you and he are not getting any younger. There will come a point when you will no longer be here, then what?</p><p>It's much better if he start to deal with his issues now rather than later.</p><p>Your home is supposed to be a sanctuary for you. You say he's never been violent towards you, to that I will add "yet". He is unpredictable. When someone is in a rage they are not thinking clearly. He could easily pick up a lamp and throw it at you.</p><p>If your son is capable of having a relationship with a girlfriend then he's capable of working.</p><p>He is in your home. What boundaries have you set? If it were me, the only way I would allow him to live there is he would have to take his medications and go to regular counseling.</p><p>As for what your neighbors think, who cares. They are not the ones having to deal with him. People that truly care about you will not gossip and those that do are not your friends.</p><p>There is help out there for your son.</p><p>Have you checked out NAMI? Here's the link. <a href="https://www.nami.org/" target="_blank">NAMI: National Alliance on Mental Illness</a></p><p>I cannot stress enough that you need to address this and the sooner the better.</p><p></p><p>Hang in there!!!!</p><p>((HUGS))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 714488, member: 18516"] You are right, it's always easier said than done when it comes to dealing with our difficult adult children. I do agree with the others that have suggested that he not live with you. Here's the thing, by you allowing him to continue to live with you and allowing him to get away with his rages to the point he's damaging your home, why would he want to leave. He's 28, you and he are not getting any younger. There will come a point when you will no longer be here, then what? It's much better if he start to deal with his issues now rather than later. Your home is supposed to be a sanctuary for you. You say he's never been violent towards you, to that I will add "yet". He is unpredictable. When someone is in a rage they are not thinking clearly. He could easily pick up a lamp and throw it at you. If your son is capable of having a relationship with a girlfriend then he's capable of working. He is in your home. What boundaries have you set? If it were me, the only way I would allow him to live there is he would have to take his medications and go to regular counseling. As for what your neighbors think, who cares. They are not the ones having to deal with him. People that truly care about you will not gossip and those that do are not your friends. There is help out there for your son. Have you checked out NAMI? Here's the link. [URL="https://www.nami.org/"]NAMI: National Alliance on Mental Illness[/URL] I cannot stress enough that you need to address this and the sooner the better. Hang in there!!!! ((HUGS)) [/QUOTE]
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