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Please Help?? 6 YO Daughter Possible ODD, Borderline (BPD), or ADHD??
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<blockquote data-quote="Liahona" data-source="post: 461489"><p><span style="color: #222222">Write down every night what you notice. It'll help you to get it out and it'll help who ever is trying to diagnosis. I found writing it down was a release for me. I didn't have to remember it. The biggest problem my husband has is he doesn't forget. It is very hard for him to switch gears as fast as difficult child 1 does. One min difficult child 1 was happy the next he was throwing things. difficult child 1 would have those mood swings several times a day; on bad days several times an hour. Bipolar adults tend to have mood swings a few times a year. My X it goes with the seasons. Children have much shorter cycles. This is called ultra-rapid-cycling or rapid cycling. And its not just emotions that swing; energy swings too. When it gets bad is when the energy is high but the emotions are low. This is called a mixed state. Then the rages that would last for hours would come. He actually shook apart a metal bunk bed that was his time out spot. I remember only one time when his energy and emotions were low at the same time. The book the Bipolar Child has a great chart to use to keep track of emotional state, energy level, sleep, and medications. If yours is having a cycle every few days that you can chart I'm impressed. The cycles tend to get longer as they get older. When she is happy is it a weird to much happy? or is she a normal happy? </span></p><p><span style="color: #222222"></span></p><p><span style="color: #222222">Something I'm very glad I did was to keep the school informed of what was going on at home. Then when everything blew up at school (2nd grade) they knew before hand that he had some special needs and weren't punitive. </span></p><p><span style="color: #222222"></span></p><p><span style="color: #222222">With difficult child 1 any charts have to have almost immediate consequences. If I were you I'd just use the star chart for positives. I don't think the chart will help her control her behavior. I think it will help her accept positives from you. If you want to have a reward make it contingent on time instead of her behavior. Look the timer went off and you have 10 stars (which you gave to her for things like having tied shoes, bright pretty eyes, a smile that looks like husband's, ect...) lets go get a treat. What you are fighting here is the self-esteem issues that lots of difficult children have. difficult child 1 knows right from wrong, but he couldn't stop himself. Its easy to see how he could think of himself as a bad kid. When she removed the chart this morning was it right after she had been "bad"? There are times difficult child 1 doesn't feel like he can get the reward so why try. </span></p><p><span style="color: #222222"></span></p><p><span style="color: #222222">I'm glad you have decided to remain calm or happy even when she is going haywire. That must be a comfort to her to have you emotionally stable when she is out of control. I hope the no violence continues. I'm sorry about the eggshells. Sometimes you just don't know what is going to set a child off. Especially before you get a diagnosis. </span></p><p><span style="color: #222222"></span></p><p><span style="color: #222222">Sorry to write so much.</span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Liahona, post: 461489"] [COLOR=#222222]Write down every night what you notice. It'll help you to get it out and it'll help who ever is trying to diagnosis. I found writing it down was a release for me. I didn't have to remember it. The biggest problem my husband has is he doesn't forget. It is very hard for him to switch gears as fast as difficult child 1 does. One min difficult child 1 was happy the next he was throwing things. difficult child 1 would have those mood swings several times a day; on bad days several times an hour. Bipolar adults tend to have mood swings a few times a year. My X it goes with the seasons. Children have much shorter cycles. This is called ultra-rapid-cycling or rapid cycling. And its not just emotions that swing; energy swings too. When it gets bad is when the energy is high but the emotions are low. This is called a mixed state. Then the rages that would last for hours would come. He actually shook apart a metal bunk bed that was his time out spot. I remember only one time when his energy and emotions were low at the same time. The book the Bipolar Child has a great chart to use to keep track of emotional state, energy level, sleep, and medications. If yours is having a cycle every few days that you can chart I'm impressed. The cycles tend to get longer as they get older. When she is happy is it a weird to much happy? or is she a normal happy? Something I'm very glad I did was to keep the school informed of what was going on at home. Then when everything blew up at school (2nd grade) they knew before hand that he had some special needs and weren't punitive. With difficult child 1 any charts have to have almost immediate consequences. If I were you I'd just use the star chart for positives. I don't think the chart will help her control her behavior. I think it will help her accept positives from you. If you want to have a reward make it contingent on time instead of her behavior. Look the timer went off and you have 10 stars (which you gave to her for things like having tied shoes, bright pretty eyes, a smile that looks like husband's, ect...) lets go get a treat. What you are fighting here is the self-esteem issues that lots of difficult children have. difficult child 1 knows right from wrong, but he couldn't stop himself. Its easy to see how he could think of himself as a bad kid. When she removed the chart this morning was it right after she had been "bad"? There are times difficult child 1 doesn't feel like he can get the reward so why try. I'm glad you have decided to remain calm or happy even when she is going haywire. That must be a comfort to her to have you emotionally stable when she is out of control. I hope the no violence continues. I'm sorry about the eggshells. Sometimes you just don't know what is going to set a child off. Especially before you get a diagnosis. Sorry to write so much.[/COLOR] [/QUOTE]
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