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<blockquote data-quote="liz_milne" data-source="post: 425193" data-attributes="member: 11873"><p>tonight all the bawling and screaming is forgotten about and she seems to be very well behaved again, i have sat down and spoken with her on a 2 to 1 basis with both me and her dad there, and explained the reasons why she is getting points deducted and why it is important to behave and pay attention at school (all this has been done before and everytime we get the same response that she will change her ways and will try to pay more attention and not talk in class, but it doesn't happen). I will not allow her to go to the park on her own or with friends, even though it is just a stones throw away. i will go with her. Also I want her to learn that we can't go to the park ALL the time just because she wants to. Even since just putting my problems on here and getting some response and guidance has lifted a huge weight. i am going to brave the doctor again and I am going to push for some further testing on her behaviour and not be fobbed off with "its a phase thing". They are not the ones who have to live with it and "put up with it". i feel SO much better now knowing I am not the only one out there, and that is not ALL my fault, it is also her genetic makeup. its just so disheartening when you see all these smiley happy children coming out of school and being so happy to see their parents picking them up and i get greeted with a grunt and a miserable face, which I try desperately to ignore. Everyday she comes out like that and still asks if she can have a sweet or something from the shop (candy for you americans out there lol), but I tell her no because of her attitude when coming out of school. When she learns to come out geniuinely happy and smiley and pleased and getting good points for that day, then by all means as a way of a reward for a hard day at school, we can go to the shop, but i can honestly say we have not been to the shop after school for about 14 months. No exaggeration!</p><p></p><p>I will keep you updated, and no doubt i will think of 1000 other questions to be answered over the coming hours!</p><p></p><p>thank you all once again for your responses and I will take EVERYTHING on board that is said and suggested.</p><p></p><p>Time to pick my battles................deep breath</p><p></p><p>Liz (p.s. any guidance on changing user name??)</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="liz_milne, post: 425193, member: 11873"] tonight all the bawling and screaming is forgotten about and she seems to be very well behaved again, i have sat down and spoken with her on a 2 to 1 basis with both me and her dad there, and explained the reasons why she is getting points deducted and why it is important to behave and pay attention at school (all this has been done before and everytime we get the same response that she will change her ways and will try to pay more attention and not talk in class, but it doesn't happen). I will not allow her to go to the park on her own or with friends, even though it is just a stones throw away. i will go with her. Also I want her to learn that we can't go to the park ALL the time just because she wants to. Even since just putting my problems on here and getting some response and guidance has lifted a huge weight. i am going to brave the doctor again and I am going to push for some further testing on her behaviour and not be fobbed off with "its a phase thing". They are not the ones who have to live with it and "put up with it". i feel SO much better now knowing I am not the only one out there, and that is not ALL my fault, it is also her genetic makeup. its just so disheartening when you see all these smiley happy children coming out of school and being so happy to see their parents picking them up and i get greeted with a grunt and a miserable face, which I try desperately to ignore. Everyday she comes out like that and still asks if she can have a sweet or something from the shop (candy for you americans out there lol), but I tell her no because of her attitude when coming out of school. When she learns to come out geniuinely happy and smiley and pleased and getting good points for that day, then by all means as a way of a reward for a hard day at school, we can go to the shop, but i can honestly say we have not been to the shop after school for about 14 months. No exaggeration! I will keep you updated, and no doubt i will think of 1000 other questions to be answered over the coming hours! thank you all once again for your responses and I will take EVERYTHING on board that is said and suggested. Time to pick my battles................deep breath Liz (p.s. any guidance on changing user name??) [/QUOTE]
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