Nothing is helping difficult child...he is in a downward spiral. Today he got yet another detention, missed out on yet another football game. I am getting to not care so much about his missing football...am much more concerned that he doesn't seem to care about the detentions and is delusional about the affect of all this on his school and social life. "I'm popular Mom! everybody likes me and thinks I'm funny!" He also had his ipad taken away from him for 2 weeks (all students at his school get an ipad on which they do their schoolwork, so he does have access to it at school now but cannot bring it home to do any schoolwork) because he took a picture of another boy and emailed it to his entire grade. He said someone had stolen his ipad, taken the picture and sent it, expecting me to believe him! The lying, stealing, disrespect, property damage (he has put several holes in walls and doors) has gotten so bad. He had received back a few computer privileges as a 13th birthday present (after charging over 1,000 on my credit card for downloads, see another thread) but now is back to having no screens whatsoever except watching TV with the family occasionally. We have tried medication changes to no avail. His therapist has no suggestions for us and is essentially worthless. difficult child isn't honest even with him. I'm thinking of leaving the man I'm engaged to because he can't relate at all to difficult child and all their interactions are negative, despite therapist's continued request to be a positive force for difficult child and try to do things with him. My fiance only seems to have time for his own son and other than that holes up in the bedroom watching TV. He's been physical with difficult child and angers easily to the point of yelling. He's been unemployed for 8 months and I work full time so he bears the brunt of manic mornings with difficult child. I moved my kids to this small town to be with him and now feel like I have no friends here at the school or anywhere. I feel like it was a huge mistake to move. But easy child loves it here...she has many good friends and earns top grades. difficult child has had a neuropsychologist evaluation and the diagnosis was ADHD...severe...duh...and ODD. From a neuropsychologist. No Aspergers, autism, also in fact has a near genius IQ. The neuropsychologist even said she doubted he'd qualify for an IEP, which leaves us in 504 territory...if I even knew what to ask for in terms of accommodations. I'm so lost...do we dump the man, the therapist...my job...I just need one person on difficult child's side...one person who believes in him....I've always been that person but now I need some shoring up because I'm so so tired of this fight for him. Most of the time, he doesn't seem to care. Once in a while he breaks down and admits he needs help, no one likes him and he has no friends...but only to me. Help please.