hi everyone... i haven't posted in a long time... although much has been happening with difficult child. after stealing his father's ATM card (and $50) and his grandmother's car, difficult child's father had to press charges and help this dangerous behavior. difficult child was sent to a juvenile facilty for 3 weeks- would've been longer, but health problems allowed him to be discharged. things SEEMED to be better- he was on house arrest, but making better choices. then he had a "hot" urine. back to juvey for a six week stint. this time, difficult child was moved to 3 different facilities and never received an actual placement. due to a psychiatric evaluation- the "system" was deemed to be a poor placement (due to foster care/abuse issues) and difficult child was sent home on informal house arrest (no ankle bracelet). actually difficult child and his father now live with me (the aunt). when i say 100% turn-around... i'm not lying. then we hit a wall. difficult child and his dad have been receiving some pretty intense therapy which will include neuro feedback. unfortunately, 2 weeks ago, during a session, difficult child learned some pretty distrubinfg stuff about his past- born in jail, left in a toilet, mother tried to sell him. before this happened, difficult child was ONE WEEK away from returning to court to finally get a curfew (and some freedom). this past friday, he violated probation by going out at 1:00 a.m. now, instead of coming home and "taking the heat" from his father, he concocted an absurd story about being abducted. he decided to call 911 with this story and ended up at the station. tomorrow, probation will come and make a decision about what will happen to difficult child. i'm at a loss. his father is on the verge of a heart-attack, and difficult child seems totally UNAFFECTED. he will be facing charges for filing a false report, and NOTHING i can do, or NO ONE that i know can help him. to tell u the truth, i don't even know if he WANTS to be helped. i'm afraid that if he goes back into the system, he's gonna give up. on the other hand, if he stays out, it's/he's going to get worse. has anyone been through something like this? if yes, what did you do?